I have 4.5 year old triplets - 1 girl and identical boys. We're in the midst of trying to sell our house, so I have lots to clean to keep up for the showings. I'm on my own from 6 - 5 every day with little help from my husband in the evening...he"s so wiped out from work. I am great at keeping the kids on a schedule, but it doesn't seem to help with the attention my daughter needs right now. She likes to cook, but aside from cupcakes and desserts, she's not interested - we can't have an abundance of desserts lying around. Whenever I try to spend some one on on time with her, the boys always seem to be needing something at that time as well. Any ideas?

Hi,
Our triplets are opposite to yours, one boy and identical girls. My girls love girlie things like making cupcakes but even better is craft. we have two craft books and they love doing anything in them (mind you planning is needed). The boys can get into it to. I have a similar problem as our kids are 6 now and my sons favorite saying is "im bored".... till i stopped that with .. everytime you say you are bored i will give you a sentence to write (they are in Kindergarten and site words are the bain of all our lives). we have a sylvanian families house and animals... soon, at about 5 your daughter we be right into that. I found at 5 is the best (or starting ) age for make believe.. a bit before then but really 5 & 6 is a great age for make beleive. Good luck on your move, all the above is not easy when its all packed up!

OZ
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The problem is trying to do it all yourself. So your DH is wiped out from work? How about YOU? Are YOU wiped out from work?? Do you quit when you are wiped out??

In our house, my job is childcare & housework while DH is at the office, and his job is, well, at the office. We do equivalent amounts of work while he is gone - me at home, and him at the office. When he gets home, everything that is left to do each day is split 50/50. I usally take care of house stuff and he takes over with the kids. Whoever finishes first goes to help the other, and then when the work is done, we sit down TOGETHER with a drink. In other words, nobody sits down til we both sit down!

On days when he has to work late at the office, I have to work late at home, and there is less leftover work to split when he gets home. On days when he gets home early, we split whatever is left to do that day!

BGG born 4/25/05 at 31w1d




New baby girl born 9/19/06

I don't see how this would be any different from making your sons feel special by spending time with them. Find a quiet game or special video for two and then do a craft or make a treat with the other one. What they each need is TIME with YOU, and that could be going to the grocery store or to get ice cream, while your husband entertains the other two. We used to have special days where I would have a sitter or preschool for three and would keep just one with me. They would tag along with me on errands and we would go where they wanted for lunch, and they would pick a place to go (all four picked the pet store!) The point was that each one got to have their own time with me. My husband would do the same and take one on an errand with him.

Heather, BBBB (two identical, two fraternal) 28 1/2 weeks, now age 18!

Yes, i so agree with Heather. Since my three were babies, we had a multitude (my husband said i was addicted to collecting them) of prams, and then , when we still had two cars, we had 3 babyseats in one and one in the other. So often one of us would just take one baby for an outing. Now that mine are at school, and doing very well. i find it easy, whilst they are watching the box, to get them to do their site words or sentences... by saying.... I want ONE baby please..... they all want to be the one with only me. Pain of being a triplet i suppose.

Oz
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Yes, i so agree with Heather. Since my three were babies, we had a multitude (my husband said i was addicted to collecting them) of prams, and then , when we still had two cars, we had 3 babyseats in one and one in the other. So often one of us would just take one baby for an outing. Now that mine are at school, and doing very well. i find it easy, whilst they are watching the box, to get them to do their site words or sentences... by saying.... I want ONE baby please..... they all want to be the one with only me. Pain of being a triplet i suppose.

Oz
May 05 ggb

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I get a little creative. One goes to the garden store to pick out a plant that they are responsible for. It's a source of pride for my child to point out how well the plant is doing and showing how resposible they are.
Another daughter and I went bowling one afternoon when DH could break free from work a little earlier, and we had a blast. Need to do it again soon.
While one of our ill kids is in the hospital for a week or so at a time, one of us is there for a day or two stretch and that is a lot of one-on-one time, while the other parent will take the other 2 out to somewhere they would like to go but is too difficult with the 3rd kid.
Seems like there are always small ways to work the individual attention in, it just doesn't look the way I thought it would at the at set.

ShEILA
GGB (33 weeks)