Some of you might remember me posting about splitting my trio 2/1 next school year. It seemed like they were all OK with the idea. Well, at lunch yesterday it really hit my more outgoing daughter pretty hard. So hard, she stayed in her room for 45 minutes rather than having her cookie dessert. I hadn't worried too much about talking to her about it since she seems so sure of herself.

They had already been separated for swim lessons. When I pointed that out, she told me she had cried lots at those because she missed her sister. (who was only a class away in the same pool) She says they are sisters and should not be separated and is worried about being able to play without her. Something about having a sister club. Said having her brother with her just wasn't the same.

It seems that they have played separately a lot of the time but I suppose they do get some comfort in knowing the others are nearby. Maybe the sister that she is overshadowing is the one giving her the confidence to be such a force. I know that her sister really wants to have a chance to be on her own. I just hope it doesn't cause any of them problems at school to be in 2 different classes.
Do you guys think I should let the school know about my seemingly more outgoing daughter's feelings about this so we can figure out a way to make the trasition easier?????

Andi
g/b/g
almost 7 yr old triplets
start 1st grade in less than a month!

Since the one really wants to be on her own, I think you are making the right decision to separate them. I also think the sooner the better. They won't be able to remain together forever and the longer you wait to do it, the harder it will be. Yes, tell her teacher about it. The more information the teacher has the better. Good luck! I have a feeling she will be over it within a couple weeks.

Tracy
Mommy to Lindsey, Patrick and Brooke
Born 1-14-03 at 32weeks, 3 days and ^i^ twins Dylan 1-12-02 and Cole 1-21-02

Last year we split them up 2 and 2, and my "mommy" child was very concerned about it. She is the child that needs to check on everyone, and make sure they are all okay. If some of them are playing in another room, every now and then she will stop what she is doing and just go check on them. Anyway, we talked with the 2 teachers and the principal and it was agreed that in the beginning she would be allowed to check up on her siblings if she needed to. She only did it a few times and was fine. They have recess together, so she was able to play with them then or just check in with them if she needed to.

I think the fact that she knew she had permission to check on them really helped. They also see each other in the halls going to the bathroom or going to activities. Will they be having lunch together or recess? If they do, mention that to her.

I would def. talk to her teacher, if not both, and maybe make some kind of arrangement to ease the separation.

Dawn

Mom to Samantha, Jeremy, Paige and Christian

Born 12/12/03 @ 31w 2d



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Thanks guys! I think I'll write a note for each of the teachers to give them at open house. Unfortunately, we won't find out who has what teacher until that Monday and then school starts Wed. I hate to ask for special considerations but it is a special situation.

Andi

I have found that teachers are very accommodating in our situation (multiples). If the kids are happy, they will be better behaved in class and will learn more. It's to their best interest to accommodate you for small requests like this.

Tracy
Mommy to Lindsey, Patrick and Brooke
Born 1-14-03 at 32weeks, 3 days and ^i^ twins Dylan 1-12-02 and Cole 1-21-02