Kelly --
I think your DH may feel that with a vascectomy he's in control of whether or not there are future children. I am wondering if he might be willing to consider freezing sperm prior to the operation. He can have it frozen under his directions -- that he is the only person who can dictate when/if it is to be used ... but that way -- should he EVER change his mind -- there is still an option without trying a reversal and without trying to find a donor.

It perhaps isn't the best solution but it might be something that provides a middle ground between what I assume is his fear of uncertainty and your fear of finality.

I do hope that whatever happens it's something that you can both agree with or come to peace with as this just seems too important to a relationship for one person to take it on his/her own.

^West Rogers^, ^Keaton Edward^, ^Rebecca Joy^ 1/6/04



Missing their sister ^Maria Jose^ 4/7/04-5/10/04