Cat --
I just wanted to chime in on your wanting another set of triplets. I talk about this with a lot of moms who lose entire sets of multiples, and it never occurred to me (although now it's kind of a DUH) that those who lose one would feel the same way.

What we often talk about is how our losses are on so many levels. We lost babies, we lost their "tripletness" -- the lifelong friendship and love we wanted for them to share, their specialness, their completeness, and (for some of us) we lost our entire family. With the loss of a child there is loss on so many levels (many more than I've listed) and having known the joys before the losses, I think it is only natural to want those joys back again.

I LOVE my girls and I am daily amazed at the wonder of them ... but had they not been triplets I would never have pursued adoption (yet). They were in no way a "replacement" for West, Keaton, and Rebecca ... but I knew they would (and wanted them to) fill the void of one part of my loss. Again, our baby-boy-to-be is not a "replacement," but he's helping me fill the void of having a successful pregnancy.

I guess I just wanted to let you know that you are far from alone and miles from crazy in wanting another set. There is indeed some healing in making whole an empty or broken piece of your heart.

^West Rogers^, ^Keaton Edward^, ^Rebecca Joy^ 1/6/04



Missing their sister ^Maria Jose^ 4/7/04-5/10/04