I totally agree. This is a public forum, if you don't want your writing read by thousands of strangers then you should not post here.

On the other hand I feel confident in the relationship and love Grace and I have to know she won't misconstrue anything I write here.

It took me months to join the forum. The stir my Grace caused over at the main message board shortly after joining here, partly of her own making but not entirely, kind of soured me on posting anywhere on TC. After months of DW's encouragement, I finally decided to jump in but I stick almost entirely to the father's forum.

This should be our board, if the women want to ask for male advise from time to time that is fine. Otherwise I feel they should respect the board and not join in the general discussions.