I'm sorry this is such a difficult time for you, Vaughn. The end of a marriage, especially one with kids involved, is a sad event.

I will encourage you to find your own lawyer that will protect your rights. Maryanne is obviously ahead of you in this cycle and you do not want to sign or agree to anything without representation to protect your own interests and those of your boys.

You need to deal with health care, education, visitation, college and other issues. Retirement moneys are entitled to be shared in most states, even though you have been the primary caregiver to the boys. Assets and future earnings are always dealt with in a divorce proceeding and you need a good, aggressive lawyer to deal with these issues.

Her past actions can be discussed with a lawyer as it related to the banking issues.

Please make sure you have a list of all assets, policy numbers, etc.

Feel free to vent here anytime.

Sharon
13 year old b/b/b + 16 year old son