Thanks so much for your response Vaughn. Hopefully your boys will adjust well once all of you have a good routine going.

It is such a huge decision to make and one that effects so many others. That is the hard part. I almost wish my husband would make the decision then the weight of it all would not be squarely on my shoulders.

We have tried counseling many times and with different counselors. I have found if you're not willing to do the work it doesn't help.

Right now I've started working and that has been an adjustment in itself!

Thanks again for being so candid with me. I hope everything works out for the best with you and your family.