I understand your concerns. My boys were in the NICU for the first two weeks, and I didn't feel like I bonded too well with them in utero (I was too scared to, I think) so it was a long time before I truly felt like their mama. But it came in time. I didn't have a *lot* of help when they came home, who knows, maybe that helped. My advice is to have your family members help with the things like laundry and cooking that you won't have time to get to. The non-baby things. I mean, you will probably have to let them help with the babies too, but if you can delegate the non-baby stuff to them first, then you'll get more time with your babies.

That said, it's really really really nice to have an extra set of hands to help with the middle of the night feedings. It won't interfere with your bonding, I promise.

Pam
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