Totally normal! It took us a week to let anybody hold them when they were in the NICU. At first we felt a bit guilty, but justified it (rightly, I think!) by the fact that what we really wanted was to let the girls sleep when they were sleeping, so what little time we had to hold them, we didn't want to share. I did get to the NICU a few times when my in-laws were visiting (they had entry privileges without us needing to be there) and they had both girls out, and it pissed me off, as they were still only 2 weeks old, and I didn't like taking them out lots. Like someone else said, you can totally ask the nurses to not allow anybody but you guys to hold them. They'll totally do your dirty work - one nurse even took me aside and said "if you don't want them holding the babies, let me know."

I was also that way when they were discharged - I didn't want anybody at my house. After 6-8 weeks of other people being in charge, I just wanted to do it all myself, and for my husband and I to get into our own routine before we had people come and help. I'm still that way, but now it's just my personality.

Amy

Julia, ^Caitlin^ (stillborn due to encephalocele complications) & Gabrielle
30 weeks, 2 days

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