Lea,

I will reiterate what many have said already - YOU are their mother and YOU know them best. My kids have been thru some of the same "tests" and it's funny (not really) because while my kids CAN do most of the skills, it's very obvious they have lower muscle tone and don't always do things correctly. They get the job done and the stupid therapists puts a check mark in the box, even though it's very obvious the skill isn't being done correctly, but it is getting it done. Tests drive me crazy because I feel the therapists concentrate SO MUCh on the tests and scores that they forget to look at the individual child underneath.

You must remember that what the therapist(s) may be seeing when they get tested is truly only a snapshot - and your children are not in their natural environment. Of course, they will act differently than when they are home and the therapist may truly NOT be getting an accurate account of your children. Therapists are also supposed to talk to the parents about their children's skills - especially at such a young age. If they did not do this with you, I don't feel it is an accurate diagnosis for your children.

I agree with the fish oil. We use the Nordic Naturals Gel "balls" as my kids call them. It truly made a HUGE difference in Andrew's cognitive ability and his speech (I started giving it and didn't tell anyone, not even my husband and around the two week mark, everyone - therapists, hubby, family - started commenting on how improved he was. After about a month, I told dh and ONE therapist, but no one else. He went from about 6-8 months behind to keeping up wiht his siblings/peers).

You have a wonderful support system here, and all around you. USE IT. I would call around and ask local churches if they have any resources - you may just find your new church home this way.

Carrie
and the crew...
Tyler 9/01 (9)
and Noah 10/03(7)
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