The teacher's expectations should NOT be perfect work. The expectation should be for every child to do THEIR very best, with a good attitude.

If a kid is able to easily do the work perfectly and doesn't bother, the teacher should say definitely something. If the child has fine motor challenges and scribbles but has done his very best, the teacher should be praising his effort!

You have had enough issues with this teacher that it is time for some sort of intervention. Especially given that your "mommy sense" is clearly telling you things are not right. Do you work? If not, I would "volunteer" in that classroom A LOT (as much as possible) so I could keep an eye on things. "Volunteer" as in, like it or not, I will be in your classroom so you can come up with something for me to do or I will sit in the back, but I'm going to be here regardless.

It is concerning that the kids are afraid to come to you b/c of DH's reaction. They need to be reassured that he WILL NOT physically harm others so they CAN come to you freely. If something truly awful happened, it sounds like they would not come to you b/c of fears of Daddy going to jail. A little kid shouldn't have to make that kind of decision.

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