I think this is a fear of many with multiples, especially when they are at different levels academically. I just had a conversation with our school principal on this subject. I have one DS who is below grade level in Math & Language arts. Our school teaches at three levels in each class, below, on and above grade level. I have one kid in each level. I constantly worry about DS who is below grade level. He is doing very well in class so that is good. But I have to be on top of things. I made a comment to the principal in a meeting recently that "God forbid DS stay back". Well she called me in the office a week later because my statement bothered her. She said I should be more open to the idea of holding a child back, not implying that was the case now. Why? Because she held her son back when he was in grade school and she never regretted it. I appreciated her opinion, but told her that she didn't have multiples and it's a whole other ball game. I told her I would do tutoring and anything else I could before I even considered that option.

I would post this same question in the Vet's forum and see if you get more of a response from people who have had to do this. I am interested too.


Terri~
12/21/01 at 33 weeks