After much thought and talking we have deicided to treat each child as an individual and not as a unit. The boys go to a private school in an accelerated program.
Our eldest singleton has ADHD and is the youngest mal in his class. Now he is in third and we see him struggle.
His experience throughout school helped me understand readiness.
The triplet that needs more time has an amazing ego and persona that he handles any social situation with ease.
He is just not ready to sit and learn and doesn't know his letters and is very silly and immature.
One of the other triplets is using words like plethora, dirth, lavatory and prefer. I cannot hold him back to subdue a potential problem with one. I will just be creating a problem if I hold a child back that IS ready.

So, we have decided that although they share a birthday we will keep treating them as individuals as we always have and deal with their own individual problems as they arrise.

They are all fraternal they look and act nothing alike. They are even different heights at this point.

Thank you all for your feedback.

Jay

Boca Raton FL