My first thought was ADHD. I think it really should be considered.

Here are things I would suggest:
1-You need to get a Functional Behavior Screen done at school. You can ask the principal or go right to the psychologist. It's like an IEP, but more for behavior.
2-you need to split the boys up
3-the one that seems to be lagging behind needs to find something he's good at. I would also look into counseling to help him with any frustrations he's having
4-they are in alot of activities and maybe they act out because they know you'll pull them from them and that is just fine with them. Pick 1 thing and leave them in it. I would suggest more sports because they need physical activity. Sitting for piano and spanish is probably not what they really are looking forward to.

You have alot on your plate. I know you want the best for the boys, but trim things a bit and make an appt with a psychiatrist for now. Things will work out. This is only a bump in the road. One frustrating bump none-the-less!

Karen

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