Camille,

We actually used a therapist who was married to a Deacon in a local Catholic church. They met with us both together and separately. It helped for awhile but things were just too far gone from that point to keep us together.

Camille, as far as when is enough enough? That is a truly personal decision. I realized that I was doing everything by myself already and having my ex at home was just one stressful thing too many. The divorce process was awful. It took TWO years for the divorce to finalize.

Melissa, I know what you mean about having to be everything for your kids. That is my life exactly. The girls are with their Dad this week in St. Louis with him and his fiancee (she has twins). I'm getting a good, restful break. Sometimes I envy friends who are married. When they run out of milk one parent can go out and get it. With me, I have to load all 4 in the car and we all go together. I've gotten really good and planning out my week so that that type of thing doesn't happen too often. It really is all about planning and being organized. Not two words I would generally use to describe me but I'm getting better.

Truthfully I would have prefered to stay married if I knew all the problems that would arise from being apart. I just wish my ex would have been willing to see the problems that were before us. Now I think he does to some extent. If there is anyway you can work it out with your husband, keep trying. But if it is definitely the end of your marriage, you will survive. You will, and your kids will.

I talk a lot about what happens in my life on my blog: www.tripletsplus1.blogspot.com
Maybe if you read that it will help you make your decision either way.

Fondly,
Kristina
divorced MOM
Megan 7/26/00 Blessed Adoption
Abigail, Brigid, Caroline 6/28/03 IVFers 34w3d

My trio is 6!!

www.tripletsplus1.blogspot.com

Kristina
divorced MOM
Megan 7/26/00 Blessed Adoption
Abigail, Brigid, Caroline 6/28/03 IVF

www.tripletsplus1.blogspot.com