My identical triplet girls had the same problem. When my girls were toddlers, I read an article stressing the importance of making sure your identical triplets understood that they were individuals. I strived for this ideal. Thus the girls grew up in an environment were separatedness was a good thing. While striving to keep their separate identities, I may have overlooked the beauty of their oneness. I now tell my girls that its ok for others to see them as one. Its ok for them to do things as one. I tell my girls that outside people want to feel special and by looking at you as special, as triplets, they feel special. And that's ok.

My daughters have also shared one friend at different times. I lovingly called this friend 4D, my fourth daughter because she has been a friend to different daughters over the past 5 years. Triplets have unique challenges, but in the end with prayer and a little wisdom, all seems to work out ok.