I know you not looking for sympathy but I'm so sorry your feeling this way and having to go through such a hard time. Our family has had a really bad couple of years and I can relate to some of you situation. It cn be very lonely, espechally when you raally don't want to talk to family and friends about personal stuff. I know it's hard. Try and hang in there. Tomorrows a new day. I wish I could say more.

Julie

There is def a wasy to get help from the state! You can get all you need to pay for daycare and food in the house. You can not have no phone and no food in the house with all those little ones. Make a ton of calls and dont take no for an answer. I think first call your social security office and they should be able to point you in the right direction. Please find yourself help.

Melissa

Consider talking with your pediatrician's office and let them know your situation. You can ask them to refer you to any and all agencies that may be able to help you. State and local alike. In addition they may be able to help you with pull-ups or diapers and other samples that they have at the time. Our pediatrician's office recently had Laundry soap (All free and clear) samples- and they were giving them away to anyone who wanted to try it. That is one product you always need, and it is usually expensive. Every bit helps!

Continue to reach out for the support you need and deserve for you and your kids.


Helene, mom of Eli, Natalie, and CJ

I am so sorry you are going through all of this. Do you belong to a church that could help? Could you call someone close to help for a little while?

Marie
Proud momma of Madigan, Autumn, & Casey born 12/2/04 at 35w2d and Asher born 4/17/08.

I am also going through a separation divorce with two-year old triplets and didn't want to talk to my family about my problems...when I couldn't take it any longer and HAD to talk to someone- both my family and the two friends I chose to vent to were very angry that I hadn't told them sooner! You may feel that you are losing friends- but maybe they just have no idea how to help?? I would really encourage you to just test the waters and see how friends and family respond....Hang in there!

I do not know what state you live, however every state has programs designed for emergencies. I know when we are not in a good situation it is hard to see the way out. You need a plan of action, especially if you cannot count on the children's father to help you out. Go to the state office, in FL is Department of Children and Families or Social Services in some other states. Apply for Food Stamps, God knows you need to be nourished so you can keep up with your kids. Apply for WIC for the girls, they will qualify until age 5, Liheap for electric. Someone in Social Services should be able to get you to these programs. Every county has funding for child care that you might be able to access and also medical for children. Plan on seeing all this agencies within the next few days so you can get some quick answers. Churches are another great source of help. Try the Catholic Church in your area for the Saint Vincent de Paul Society. they are very helpful and again I have found them in every county I have ever lived on.
Look forward to work, this will provide you the grown up base we all need, and possible sitters for later. Being taken care of is allright but when this all is over you will have the satisfaction that no matter what you made it on your own for you and your children. I will place you in my prayers tonight!

Wow! You need some help- and you know that. You have gotten a lot of good advice- I wanted to share with you my mother's story. My mom was a single mom with three kids and would have made more money had she taken welfare than she did working full-time. We were latch key kids at 5, 7, and 8- I believe my mom helped to instill in us a strong work ethic but I often wonder if things would have been easier for her had she taken welfare for a while, perhaps until we were a little older. She thinks looking back that would have been a perhaps a better decision but who knows? She got help with housing and some food which helped. Reach out to others. If your friends and family knew how desperate you are I am sure someone might reach out- if only to help make a few calls or come over for a while so you can make calls. I know how hard it is to reach out when you feel you are at the end of your rope, but you must do it for yourself and your family. Good luck- you will be in my thoughts-

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I'll be praying for you and your girls. There is no shame in getting a little help. You need it now and this won't last forever! Take everyone's advice and get as much help as you can. Good luck, we're all here for you! Becca

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Kristina,

Please please take any help that you can get. We have tried and tried to get help in the past but have never been able to. It hurts me to think of people out there that need help. Do not feel bad about it.

Your husband is a coward and he will someday get whats coming to him.

Nick, your message was so touching.


Thank-u for posting this, as im up late, cant sleep, stressed out thinking of how im going to register 4 kids for school with no $ in 2 days. I read posts like this and tell myself, Sandy, stop complaining, we dont have it half as bad as others.

Hang in there.

Sandy

mom to 4 kids
oldest is 18, and trio age 7

(((((huge hug))) I was wondering where you are located? I would like to help you in some way. I know about a couple of resources in my state....heck you can come over to have dinner at my house.


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You will make it through this.



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I'm so glad to hear you've gotten some relief from your church. Kudos to you for applying for food stamps. I know it's probably really hard to level your pride, but that kind of assistance is made for people like you, who end up in a crappy situation, but who aren't so lazy that they want to milk the system forever.

Also, about your daycare...look into the Department of Social Services website. In Louisiana, they will pay for ANY class-A child care of your choice so that you can either work or go to school. I come from a small upper-middle class family, but we are all really distant with the exception of my sister. I know when my boys are born, I am going to have to level my pride eventually and get some government assistance until I can earn a degree and get a high paying job. It's hard to stomach especially since I am a diehard conservative, but I keep telling myself "Pride isn't going to keep a roof over our heads or put food on the table."

God didn't bring you this far to drop you on your butt. He is there for you, your safety net.

Hope this helps.

Jenny
16 weeks 2 days
spontaneous triplet BOYS!!!

my heart just breaks for you. I wish that I could say something comforting. I'll say a prayer and keep you all in my thoughts.

RoseMarie
mom to the Hooligans 12/21/98

I am so sorry that you are going through this but be strong and have faith that everything will work out. I can tell you that there are tons of programs that the state will offer you. One of the best ones is something called WIC. WIC provides your children with food such as cereal, formula etc. Also, contact the social worker at your hospital they know of tons of programs too.

Please know that you are not alone. You have us to vent with, ask for advice on....we will all be there for you.

I will pray for you and I promise you that you will see the light at the end of this. I know it's hard and you think it's never going to go away...but it will.

Your children need you and your strength.

Good luck!

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I am so sorry you and your children have to endure this. I would definitely contact your social security office and get all the help/assistance you and your family deserve and need. Remember this too shall pass!!!
I wish you all the best & I will keep you in my prayers.
All my love, Lynda
Mom to Alexa, Gianna & Louis Joel
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