Hi,


This is inspired by a recent thread, but not written in response to it, or aimed at any one individual or poster - I promise. As a frequent reader and sometime contributor to this forum, and as a minority here (a dad), I just want to express my outright loathing, my complete and utter disdain for the term "DH." I've been on this site for half a year and I have no idea what it stands for. My guess is either "Dedicated Husband" or "Designated Husband," but no matter what it stands for, it basically seems to me to marginalize the role of fathers in the parenting process, and to lump all of us together into one homogenous group. It also reads as some secret, exclusionary code. I completely understand how triplet moms can often feel that the burden of parenting falls too heavily upon them, and I'm sure no matter how much we dads contribute, we will never quite equal the monumental personal sacrifices involved in triplet mothering. But just so you know, being labeled a DH (and by the way, I can think of something ELSE that might stand for), doesn't exactly make me feel appreciated for anything.

Just saying.

Dan

http://saxandsons.com
Dan and Alex
parents of
Pablo (4lbs)
Levi (3lbs 4 oz.)
Satchel (3lbs 1 oz.)

identical boys - born 11-23-08
31 weeks 2 days

Yes, I think it stands for Dear Husband. It's a pretty universal acronym in blogland/message board land. It's not exclusive to TC. I've seen it at almost every forum I've visited.

DW stands for Dear Wife.

Kristen

we can also add
DSS- dear step son
DSD- dear step daughter

if we want to change acronymy I think that the one that needs to be changed is BM (breast milk) not that it is offensive in any way but for many reading they could take a post talking about feeding an infant BM as somthing so totally diffrent so EBM for expressed brest milk or explosive bowle movment take yout pick.

like others have said that DH is a widely accepted term in the social networks so I dont think it is going anywhere

and yes in some posts the DH is somthing else not so dear and then I have seen the NSDH posted before when the DH is ticking a DW off many times with somthing to do with the DK or the DMIL or DFIL etc