Hi,


This is inspired by a recent thread, but not written in response to it, or aimed at any one individual or poster - I promise. As a frequent reader and sometime contributor to this forum, and as a minority here (a dad), I just want to express my outright loathing, my complete and utter disdain for the term "DH." I've been on this site for half a year and I have no idea what it stands for. My guess is either "Dedicated Husband" or "Designated Husband," but no matter what it stands for, it basically seems to me to marginalize the role of fathers in the parenting process, and to lump all of us together into one homogenous group. It also reads as some secret, exclusionary code. I completely understand how triplet moms can often feel that the burden of parenting falls too heavily upon them, and I'm sure no matter how much we dads contribute, we will never quite equal the monumental personal sacrifices involved in triplet mothering. But just so you know, being labeled a DH (and by the way, I can think of something ELSE that might stand for), doesn't exactly make me feel appreciated for anything.

Just saying.

Dan

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Dan and Alex
parents of
Pablo (4lbs)
Levi (3lbs 4 oz.)
Satchel (3lbs 1 oz.)

identical boys - born 11-23-08
31 weeks 2 days

I don't particularly like the term either. I will sometimes just say hubby instead. I don't like to use my hubby's name b/c not everyone knows who I am talking about when I say it. I also don't think it is marginalizing the father's roll although to be quite honest, he does not do nearly the amount of work that I do BUT then it is in no way connected to the use of DH in here or anywhere else.

Astrid
GGB born at 33.6 on 3-31-08
Sofia Genevieve ~ 4.9 oz, 10 days NICU
Gabriella Marie ~ 4.4, 10 days NICU
Ian Giovanni ~ 4.1, 14 days NICU

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