Hi,


This is inspired by a recent thread, but not written in response to it, or aimed at any one individual or poster - I promise. As a frequent reader and sometime contributor to this forum, and as a minority here (a dad), I just want to express my outright loathing, my complete and utter disdain for the term "DH." I've been on this site for half a year and I have no idea what it stands for. My guess is either "Dedicated Husband" or "Designated Husband," but no matter what it stands for, it basically seems to me to marginalize the role of fathers in the parenting process, and to lump all of us together into one homogenous group. It also reads as some secret, exclusionary code. I completely understand how triplet moms can often feel that the burden of parenting falls too heavily upon them, and I'm sure no matter how much we dads contribute, we will never quite equal the monumental personal sacrifices involved in triplet mothering. But just so you know, being labeled a DH (and by the way, I can think of something ELSE that might stand for), doesn't exactly make me feel appreciated for anything.

Just saying.

Dan

http://saxandsons.com
Dan and Alex
parents of
Pablo (4lbs)
Levi (3lbs 4 oz.)
Satchel (3lbs 1 oz.)

identical boys - born 11-23-08
31 weeks 2 days

Geez. As a working wife, mom of triplets, I like that common terms used over and over can be shortened to save me time. Gosh knows there's not alot of it.

I'm sure if there were more DHs on this site, then you would probably see the term DW used more. And on any given day, DH can take on a multitude of meanings. Which is generally hinted at in the post. But despite the feelings the poster has towards the DH in question, it's always meant to refer to the man she is married to.

JMO..oops

Shannon

ggg, 25 weekers
Nov, 2005