Dear Ladies - I tried really hard to NOT pressure my GGG's to be 100% PT but seems like Stephanie has been pushed and now is tightening up instead of going. My girls are 3 years and 8 months. Before, we could see her sneaking to a corner or behind a door or under the table and ask her if we could at least put on a diaper to make it easier to clean up and she would comply but now she is just holding it in. We gave her a dose of laxative recommended by her pedi and she hasn't gone - second dose - now she is really hurting and wanting to go but won't - not in a diaper and not on potty not even in her pants or without clothes - I feel like a fool.
I am not currently in the USA - tomorrow is Sunday - what should I do?
She is napping right now and I could see she just went to sleep because she didn't want to deal with this anymore - ideas?
Lana
TIA

Well, thankfully as soon as I posted this Stephanie woke up with a full diaper and is in the bath - sigh of relief. Still open to suggestions on back tracking and trying to un-do what has already been done regarding her now feeling so reluctant that she gets in this kind of trouble.
lana

Some children, no matter how gently you go, will go through this stage...so please don't beat yourself up over it too much.

Just want to make sure you have allowed enough time for the laxative to work. Usually 24 hrs was the longest we waited, but I have heard of doctors recommending 36hrs.

If it has been that long, to get her through this, you may have to use a glycerine suppository. We had one who would often get constipated, and once in a very rare while it would get so bad that the doctor would recommend one. We usually used no more than 1/2 of an adult one.

It isn't pleasant, but the next step for us was going into the doctor to deal with compaction. I knew that what we were doing was far gentler than what they do.

I hope she feels better soon. It took ours a while to come to terms with doing #2 in the potty. Other mom's kept telling me that it will eventually happen...just hang in there!


Susan

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So glad your dd is feeling better!

As far as training goes...this is what worked for us.

They learned to ask us for a diaper when they needed to go poop.
We had them go poop next to the potty, then we had them squat next to the potty, then we had them do it while sitting on the open potty with their clothes and diapers on, then with just their diaper on.

Once you get to that point you can choose to ask them to sit on the potty and try before getting a diaper. Eventually they will feel comfortable enough with the process to give it a try.

Good luck!

Susan

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I just finished day 2 in the 3 day potty training method. (google 3 day potty training and use your own mixture of idea's from different sights)

I was doing great. I am only potty training two right now because my daughter has CP and I want her to learn to tell me she went potty before potty training her. The boys did ok the first day, with lots of accidents. Today my stubborn son said he had to go in the "adult" potty in the bathroom. I took him in there, played his games, then when I came out my other son was sitting on a kids potty. I looked and sure enough he had went pee a LOT, yet it was through his underwear. Huge accomplishment, he knows when he has to go and where.

Grandma shows up to "help". Her STRESS, even after I talked to her about no stress potty training, wore off on me and the kids. At the end of day two we are worse off than before day one. They don't want to hear the word potty, pee or poo poo. When grandma was here and after she left we had accidents everywhere, including one ONE foot away from the toilet while brushing teeth.

Here is my point. Stress kills potty training. You mentioned that you don't want them to make a mess. Do what I did, put blankets and towels EVERYWHERE. The kids think it's fun and new. Buy lots of carpet cleaner.

They learn when they have accidents. Learn to get happy when they have an accident because that means they saw something different going on down there. Be prepared for lots of work. But if you are like me, 3 days of solid work is better than months of casual work. You should pee on your own carpet to get over the anxiety............haha......I got gross didn't I

Are you using a potty or having her go on the toilet? If you're using a potty, what about switching -- talk to her about it, make it sound very exciting - she's a big girl now so she can go poop in the big girl potty (toilet) and then go out with her and let her choose a potty seat to go on the toilet. Create a sticker chart for all the kids - we did one for pee and another for poop and put them in the bathroom. Decide what you'd like to do with the stickers...sometimes the stickers are enough -- seeing the stickers mount up on the page gets them super excited...make a huge deal out of getting a sticker. You could add a reward - for every 3..4...5 stickers (times she poops in the toilet), she gets a candy, toy, new pair of socks...whatever. My daughter also liked to say "bye bye" when she flushed...

anyway - just some thoughts. things will settle out...good luck.

Janet
G - 12/07 35 weeks
GGG-04/10 30 weeks