We have two who are still using a pacifier at age 3. They go to day care and do not use them there. They even hand them to their teacher at day care, but they have to have them at home. We try to limit it to bed time and nap time, but it ends up being for in the car, while at the store, etc. Any advice on how to lose these things would be appreciated.

Also, we are all not even close to potty trained. My neices and nephews who are just 2 are all well under way to being potty trained (all singletons), but not our 3. What are we doing wrong?

The boys all have speech delays and that is why they are starting Head Start in the fall, but it is just so frustratig to see how behind they are, even when compared with 2 year olds.

If you don't want them to have the paci, take them away. If there aren't any in the house they can't use them. Make a clean break and toss them in the trash.

Lori

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Try not to stress. Mine took paci's at nap and night time until they were close to 4. And then I just stopped giving them the paci's...cold turkey. We tried to make sure we got all of them that were thrown around the house/van, etc. We found a couple just recently and my kiddos will be 6. And honestly, it wasn't as huge of a deal as I thought. At night time when I tucked them in and they asked for them, I just told them that they were too big for paci's.

I know I've read a few things on here where people have said they tied their's to a balloon and released it to go to another baby who needed it. My mind is drawing a blank but I know there were more suggestions.

Try not to compare your kiddos to singleton's. I know it's hard & I still do it from time to time. But it just isn't the same. We were in the same boat with potty training, too. And I totally did not push the issue. My DD was potty trained at 2 (I think). She was easy & pretty much did it on her own. My boys were slower. I never tried the 3 day potty training or anything like that. I let it happen when it happened. And it will happen.

I'm a stresser but for some reason I didn't stress much on those two issues. They may talk a little longer to do these things, but it will happen mama. Take care!

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Thank you! I know that they can do without the paci's. Sometimes I think we just give them to them because their speech is delayed, we don't know what they are trying to ask for, and it is an easy fix. I know we have to make a clean break and will have to get up the courage to do it.

I guess I kind of know in my heart about the potty training...that it will just take them a little longer, but it is still hard to hear others' success stories. All we can do is be patient and try.

Thanks so much!

Jennifer

Hi Jennifer. My kiddos are 4 and I rarely get on here anymore!

As for the paci's we cut of the ends when they were two and let them suck on them...they said they were broken and we threw them away. If they asked for them I would remind them that they were broken and we threw them away.

I took them away for two reasons...my SIL is a speech therapist and one of mine has a speech delay and she said that if they have something in their mouths they are obviously less likely to talk...they also get used to talking out of the sides of their mouth which doesn't help with articulation/annunciation, etc.

Second, the boys when to the dentist and they told us we were going to have huge orthodonture bills if we didn't. Colter's teeth especially were starting to be pushed forward...it was amazing how quickly they straightened up when we took those away.

Hope this helps!

Jessica

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We had one paci addict...even now, two years after we got rid of them, she will still "dream suck". (Wondered what that weird noise she made was...until I watched her while she slept!) To get rid of them, I started out making small holes in the paci with a needle every couple nights, about 5-10 holes each time. After a couple weeks the pacis leaked a lot of air when sucked on and we told her that all pacis start to break when you are too old for them. After 4 weeks none of them could be sucked on, but she could still hang onto them for comfort. I did this purposely since she likes to put things in her mouth and I did NOT want her to start using her thumb and have to break that habit too!

Now, at 5, she occasionally brings out the paci's to hold at night when she is stressed, but is basically done with them.

Susan

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Mine are 3 and have speech delays also, and I sometimes feel the same way when I see them interact with other kids their age - the other kids seem like geniuses and mine seem like neanderthals! I do try not to compare, but it's hard. I go through phases of worrying like crazy and then go back to feeling like they're doing ok and progressing at their own rate (which they really are). Even "typical" kids have issues with one thing or another, so try not to feel bad about the pacis or potty-training - in the grand scheme of things, those are small things that will develop in their own time, they just seem huge when you're dealing with them x 3! Two of mine are taking to the potty-training fairly well, the third is very much not ready and that's ok. Not much you can do if they just aren't "getting it" yet. They'll get there! Try not to worry

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Baby A - 5 lbs 1 oz
Baby B - 6 lbs 8 oz
Baby C - 4 lbs 5 oz

"the other kids seem like geniuses and mine seem like neanderthals!"...I totally go through this, too! I stress and then I'm okay for a while and back to stressing. It's a vicious cycle but I think all of our kids will be okay

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Hi
do your kiddos go to the dentist? or could be the pedi - we arranged with ours (her suggestion) for our GGG's to come in and hand over, in our case, their bottles @ 3 years - we couldn't do it ourselves! - she gave them each a present (we had dropped off the day before) and she threw the bottles in the trash in front of them - they went in individually - so she was the bad guy, not us.
They cried a little once in awhile for a month or so.
Potty training? 1 did it it almost on her own and the other 2 took lots longer - 1 still has issues to go poo and they are almost 4.
hang in there!
lana

Take the pacifiers away and throw them out. If your kids have speech delays, you are doing them a disservice by not ditching the pacifier. They can't suck on them if they don't have any. If they don't use them at daycare, but do at home, that's because you let them.

Take the diapers away. Have you done that? Go cold turkey.

In order for the kids to change, you need to step up and guide them to the next stage. GL.

Like Lana said, for us having the dentist talk to them was the "cure". They all used it for naps and bedtime but I had one that was getting addicted. We went to the dentist and she mentioned to me how she could see the side effects of paci on their teeth and shape of the mouth palate. She then talked to them and told them something (I dont recall exactly what) and asked for the pacifiers. They all gave them to her and that was it. They asked for them later but knew they were gone and they could not have them back. It was amazing to see the difference in on the girl's teeth within weeks. Not easy but doable...

Leni
GGG Trio
Born at 30 weeks, June 2008

Like Lana said, for us having the dentist talk to them was the "cure". They all used it for naps and bedtime but I had one that was getting addicted. We went to the dentist and she mentioned to me how she could see the side effects of paci on their teeth and shape of the mouth palate. She then talked to them and told them something (I dont recall exactly what) and asked for the pacifiers. They all gave them to her and that was it. They asked for them later but knew they were gone and they could not have them back. It was amazing to see the difference in on the girl's teeth within weeks. Not easy but doable...

Leni
GGG Trio
Born at 30 weeks, June 2008