The trips have been in daycare since they were 21 months old. They have been at their current daycare since Sept. We love their daycare. Three teachers with 17 kids in the class. It has longer hours b/c I work at the hospital. Until recently they have done really well and now they are getting in trouble all the time.

They only recourse of action is the cozy corner (a beanbag chair with books) where they have to go to for timeout and it is not working for my trips. Last week we talked with the teachers about their behavior and they got in trouble at home for it and this week they are right back in trouble. Biting each other, hitting, bossy around other children and back talking to their teachers. At home they go to calm down time (the laundry room) with the door shut and if that doesnt stop them then they get a spanking..of course they can't spank at school and they want ideas from me on how to control the children at school....HELP?

Our children are out of control..I am sure they hear the bossing and barking commands from us b/c they are so wild and unfocused most of the time.

Can anyone offer any suggestions for consistency at home and daycare with discipline?

Joy

GBB Triplets born 9-24-08(31 weeks)

Kellynn Grace 3lbs 3oz
Holden Coy 3lbs 2oz
Cayden Thomas 3lbs 8oz

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A cozy corner with a bean bag and a book is not time out. I would tell them to put them in timeout. They need to be consistent with it. They need to figure out what they are doing wrong. I run a daycare and I use timeout, it works like a charm. I don't have a cozy corner with a book and bean bag in it. I put them in the corner and set the timer. They are told to say they are sorry, kiss and hug every time.

thats what I am thinking, at home no chair or corner has worked for us, they have to go into the laundry room and shut the door and they can not come out until they are calm..if they can see of interact with siblings it is not punishment in my house. I am open to seperating them in classes if they want to, what is your thoughts on that?

Joy

GBB Triplets born 9-24-08(31 weeks)

Kellynn Grace 3lbs 3oz
Holden Coy 3lbs 2oz
Cayden Thomas 3lbs 8oz

http://hilltriplets.shutterfly.com/

I am split between separating them.I know that some have and loved it and then I know some that have and hated it. You know your kids better than anyone, if you feel that is the answer then you can try it and if it does not work out you can always put them back together again.

You got to figure out what their "currency" is and use it against them. This is what we had to work out at our daycare because one thing doesn't work for all kids -- especially not mine it seems.

For example, my one boy is a "positive if, then" kid. So, if he does something RIGHT, then he is rewarded (sticker, tatoo, etc.)

My other boy is a "negative if, then" kid. So, if he does something WRONG, then he gets something taken away (time on the swimgs outside, computer time, etc).

My other one is the "time out" kid. Put him in time out when he makes poor choices, and he cools down and comes back ready to behave.

You might have to try different things to see what works.

And I agree that "cozy corner" sounds like a reward, not a punishment. Noel would be doing crazy crap just to get sent there. lol

Jessica
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I know. Lilly loves books. She would be over there playing with the books all the time. LOL

Hi Joy-

I would agree with what the other ladies have said....maybe the kids need a more "traditional" timeout..without the cozy corner.

I feel your pain though. Mine are also 3 1/2 years old and recently we have been having alot and I mean ALOT of behavior issues. And mine aren't in a full time daycare..I do utilize an hourly stay and play type place sometimes for two of them and the other is in preschool at the local elementary and wow...I get the same type of comments. They are unfocused, bossy, talk back, "bother" their peers, etc.
I just said to my hubby the other day, "Hey..I thought that 4 years old was the magic age....I dont' think we are going to make it to 4!"...
It's been rough. My kids just laugh and laugh when we do discipline especially when they are around each other..they just don't seem to get the message.

Just wanted to tell you...I'm right there with you...

Cindy

BGB born November 6, 2008 at 33 weeks and 3 days
Ryan Patrick 4 lbs 10 oz
Noelle Alyssa 4 lbs 8 oz
Evan Christopher 4 lbs 10 oz

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My girls didn't really require discipline but they still had thier days.
When they had 'thier' days, I would have them get on thier knees and have them raise thier hands well over thier head and put them on the wall.
It was very uncomfortable for them, and therefore they didn't like to be in that postion for very long.
This was the discipline that worked well for them.

Now...they'r nine. I still use that or it's isolation time.
MY girls are the type to need 'sisterly' contact. They're to be in there room with the door closed and no contact with anybody whatsoever. First few minutes are fine...and then they start getting desperate for some human contact. I found this also to be a good form of discipline without causing pain.

These things worked well for me....but every child is different so you have to work with what suits you the best.

Split them up.

We had this same problem, for us it was mostly the boys fighting but then my daughter would join in, misbehave, not listen...

Tristan and Cassie are VERY close and do EVERYTHING together, so we split the boys up, and put cassie in a room with Ryland to give those two more bonding time, and we actually put tristan in a class that is a year behind (cuz there was only one class for kids their age), but he goes to the "big class" for the two "lesson times" they have during the day.

It has worked out wonderfully for us and cut the disciplinary issues were cut down majorly after we did this.

Julie
Single mom to

Tristan Declan 4lbs 3oz
Cassandra Madison 4lbs 7oz
Ryland Markus 4lbs 2oz
Born on 9/5/06 at 32 weeks 4 days

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