so, this has probably been discussed before, and i heard it all the time when we were pregnant with triplets from other parents of multiples, but i have to ask:
What kind of stupid looks, comments, and questions did or do you get?

I was pushing the stroller the other day at the women and children's center where our BGB triplets were born, and it was as always like the circus was in town. To set the stage for you a little more, we live an hour away from the place, so it is a job just to get to the center. We had speech and PT for our 4 month=corrected age trio. I had a guy walk by and say "no way, that would suck man" then an elderly couple chased my wife to the door of our appointment asking multiple invasive questions.

I know this is going to happen, and when in the right mood, it is no big deal. But, when I got asked if we did drugs, I wanted to say "yeah we do them all" but of course I didn't.

I guess I am just curious of what other things could be coming into the near future, and what crazy things you have encountered, and your creative responses. thanks!

I'm sure you'll get all kinds of responses on the stupid comments. I always took the smart-assery approach to see how many stupid people would believe me. One of our trio was always bigger so we would tell people that two were twins and the other was 3 months older. Most people would look a little confused, then just nod and agree.

The good news is that now that they ride in the step 2 choo choo wagon most places in public, people are so fascinated by the wagon, they don't even notice the triplets. People run up to us at the zoo constantly to ask where we got the wagon.

I'm a pretty laid back person, but the one thing that always pisses the crap out of me is when anyone makes reference to the octomom. Because having three babies and eight babies at the same time is somehow the same thing? Ack.

And every once in a while, you get comments that make you feel good. One lady in the pediatrician waiting room said to her daughter who was 5-ish "All those little girls were born at the same time. Isn't that the most special thing you ever saw?" Darn right!

Lara
Mom to GGG born at 25+4 on 12/25/09

Some people are rude and others are nice about it. I do believe that some people talk before they think. I had one lady ask me, "how do you do it without killing yourself." I was shocked and told her that they were really good and why would I want to kill myself.

My mom calls them rockstars. I have just learned to deal with it and now that they are almost 3 the starrs of simmered down.

The most frequent comment I got was "Triplets?!?! God bless you!"

But you will absolutely get bizzare, awkward, sometimes incredily stupid comments and questions too. And you just have to let it roll off your back. People will feel absolutely OK stopping you on the street or in the store to talk to you, when if you had only one baby they wouldn't bother. I try to be polite, and briefly engage in conversation with them, and then just move along. It can get annoying, but it's not something worth getting worked up over since if I let it get to me my life would be miserable!

My favorite so far happened in the check-out line at Target. My husband and I were there with all of our children, and the cashier commented on the boys being twins. At first she only saw two of them (which is common, we get "twins?" a lot before they see the third) so I told her they were actually triplets and stood to the side so she could see the third. She remarked "TRIPLETS!? Wow, you must be busy" and then she saw my daughter, who is 2.5 years older than the boys, and she said "woah, so you have four triplets!"

Yes lady, I have FOUR triplets...

Brooke
Mom to:
Avery 1/17/09
Asa 5 lb 3 oz
Oliver 5 lb 4 oz
Connor 5 lb 5 oz
9/2/11 (37 weeks)

The best advice I can give you is not to make eye contact and keep it moving. Don't stop. You can acknowledge comments, but do not stop.

Pam
Identical BBB triplets born 12/4/07 at 33w2d
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Hahaha yup, smile and nod and keep on going

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I usually hear "You have your hands full" to which I simply agree and keep moving. Also "Are they twins?" even when I have all three with me, which is nearly always. Sometimes they didn't see the third, but I often hear it when they're looking straight at all three. I don't get it. They're within an inch of each other in height and are all fraternal, so I can't imagine which two look like twins to them.

I don't often get the "Are they natural?" question anymore, thank goodness, but when I do I usually respond with, "Does it matter?"

Mom to GBG born in July 2009 at 30w6d: 3#10oz, 3#12oz, 3#2oz

We get most of the "hands full" people, but I smile and don't reply, sometimes if I have time, I boast- sometimes, they ask if they are twins, I say yes and move on. I did get the are they natural question and my answer depends on my mood I've realized. Sometimes it's "they're SUPERNATURAL" sometimes it's "Yes we've had some help"

Mom to BBB triplets born on 6/24/09 @ 29 weeks - 2 months in NICU
Baby Boy 9/19/2010

I can remember getting so aggravated with people's comments. Now I just smile, interact and move on with life. I love the Supernatural comment in the last post I will have to try and remember that.

Rule number one: Never make eye contact if you don't want to be stopped.
Rule number two: Say things you are okay your children will someday repeat
Rule number three: You might be the only triplet parent they meet in their lifetime.


I hated personal questions. TOTALLY hated it. I was so embarrassed with the fertility questions. It something I found private and not something I needed to share with my grocer. I always was aware my children could hear what was being said. I never wanted them to be defensive of the fact that they were triplets or that because we had three at once it was a bad thing. They are a blessing. Ask them now and they will tell you the same thing, they know they were wanted and not a burden to my husband and I. Actually, now that they look nothing alike they volunteer that they are triplets to random people at inopportune times. LOL

My mantra was:

Stranger: Are they triplets?
Me: Yes they are triplets.

Stranger: Are they natural?
Me: They are not made of plastic (flash smile and walk away)

Stranger: Man, you've got your hands full (not in complimentary way)
Me: Yes my hand are full but my heart is fuller.

Stranger says: Better you then me
Me: I am glad God gave them to me too.

Stranger says: Do triplets and twins run in your family?
Me: yes they do, they run from the bathroom to the bedroom to the kitchen (laughing as I walked away)

Stranger says: Did you take fertility medicine?
Me: That's private. (about this time they are stumbling over themselves to apologize at least they did in the south)

Stranger: Do they cry at the same time?
Me: Umm sometimes (why do they ask that question?!)

Stranger: Do they like to share?
Me: They really don't have a choice but it's a good thing they learn to get along with others sooner then later.

Stranger: God bless you!!!!! (not in a nice way)
Me: He sure did!!!

Stranger: FIND some sort of negative thing about having triplets
Me: SUPPLIES a positive spin on it (I worked hard to never give ground to ugliness)




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Ahhh I forgot to share my zingers. I am naughty when in private because I love to shock the heck out of people.

Friend/aquantiance: How did you manage to have triplets?
answer when husband was around: His super sperm
answer my husband would give: We did three times that night
when solo: My overies were getting lazy and lost count
: God knew I only wanted to get pregnant once so he made it count!

Funny the questions seem to stop after we answered.

Just let me tell you that it never stops.

My triplets are 30 years old and I still get all the personal questions and negative comments.

The question that I liked the most was, "Did you have help getting pregnant"? My response, "Yes, my husband".

I have a son who is 20 months older. So I always hear that it must have been just like having quads. No you idiot, it was like having a toddler and 3 babies.

I always say though that once the questions go away and people stop noticing that they are unusual, you may actually miss it a little bit.

Try to enjoy it.

I used to take all 4 of my kids to the mall and try to shop, but the people took up so much time with all the questions that many times we ended up not getting our shopping done. It can be a pain in the butt, but try to enjoy it.

If someone asks you a sexual question that is just too personal, throw a sexual question back at them about their sex life. That usually puts an end to their conversation with you.

mom to:
Ryan 32 The Lawyer
Jason 30 The Chief Meteorologist
Chris 30 The College Student
Tim 30 The college grad

I love hearing their versions of their childhood memories!!