So I have a 6 year old with some emotional problems and he is getting better at expressing himself in the right way and we have 26 month old triplets. The boys are identical and then there is Heather. She is a perfect little girl when there is no other children around. As soon as I set them all in the playroom her and Arthur are constantly crying and whining. They pick at eachother and steal eachothers toys. When I sit to read books to them they fight over me. I end up getting up and leaving them to cry on the couch.

I am constantly stressed from all the loudness of crying and whining and pretty much miserable surroundings. I hate it. My 6 year old does too. He thinks the answer is to yell back at them to be quiet. To me that is just one more loud noise I'd like to get rid of.

So my husband took our 6 year old camping for 5 days and took Heather to Grandma's in CA. I was home with just our twin boys.
Arthur and Ryan. Ryan is mister independant and does not require much. Arthur is mommy's boy and loves to cuddle and CLING all day. But he was happy and got alot of individual time with me for those 5 days. It was peaceful and happy and for once in a very long time I actually enjoyed motherhood. Now it is back to horrible.


Just to mention, when they are alone with my mom or a babysitter (all 3 of them) that they do not act out in that negative way. It is just for me and my husband...but more so for me.
I just cannot seem to find a way to make all of them coexist.
I do not want to be near any of them. I wouldn't mind loudness if it was playful and happy. That is a good sound to hear. If I go and play with them it just adds to the fire. I can't go near them or they fight over me. I can't leave the room or they just stand and cry at the gate.

We tried 3 half days of daycare for all 3 and we went broke. lol.
It was a glorious 2 weeks until they got some horrible stomach bug that lasted 21 days. I thought about hiring someone to come to the house and play with them. But if I am in the house they would still act out. Only if I am gone do they play nice. I feel so trapped. I desperately need a game plan to get through. I just need to give Heather to her grandmother to raise and then problem solved.

I feel like a horrible mom. I do not enjoy them. I feel like I am being punished.

HELP
Colleen

Colleen

They just turned two and they are starting in on the terrible two's. You need to set boundaries with them. You can tell them that one can sit with you during story time or another play time and then another can sit with you during a different period during the day but they can only sit with you if they are good. I don't know if you are doing time out but if not, it is a great time to start. If they misbehave then time out they go.

yep, I have started time out.
Heather just cries the whole time. And when I say cry it more of a overdramatic loud as can be cry.

Arthur doesn't seem to be phased by it much. Guess I need to find something else for him.

I wish there was an off button for the sound on them.

Colleen

You can put Heather in the other room in time out so you don't have to hear her. I have done this before. It really does work. Just make sure where ever you put her that she is safe.