I am 12 weeks with triplets, very happy and excited! My husband is excited, our friends are excited, I finally shared the news with my Mom and……. she thinks is not normal, she feels bad for me to be in this “difficult” situation, even said that she would prefer if I had one, maybe two! Can you believe it? I feel so bad that it's my MOM saying things like this, putting me down, not supporting me at all, but instead criticizing for another "stupid" thing I did (like not dating the right guys, not having the right friends, not wearing proper make-up, and I guess not having a "normal" pregnancy now).

Today when she called again saying that she needs to talk to us seriously (probably wanted to suggest that we get rid of one or two babies, I'm only entering 12 weeks), I told her how bad I felt talking to her and that she's not accepting me and my babies and I hang up on her. I really don't want to listen to this, it makes me upset and angry. I want to stay being happy! It's great news and I am thrilled to be preg with trips! (of course I also realize that it's not going to be easy, but that's ok with me, I can do it!). I realize that she is probably just worried about me, but it's not helping telling me how bad she feels, I would rather her say things like everything will be ok, I will come help you when they're born (she lives in Poland, I live in the US with my husband and a 2 year old).
Anyone experienced something like this from people close to them??

Hi there-
I experienced some of these same things...it is very hard to hear. But fear for your life is usually the culprit here. Most people have not have the benefit of hearing all the information from your doctor, websites like these, etc.

My husband and I decided to wait to tell most of our family and friends until I was almost three months along. Then we did it in a fun celebratory way, I planned a fake surprise birthday party for my husband, invited everyone to come to my parents and then we showed up and they all yelled SURPRISE then we surprised them by telling them we were pregnant....with triplets!

Everyone still talks about that party

Best of luck to you and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!
Amanda

AZTripmom
Born at 34 weeks 4/6/07
Lily 4 pounds
Faye 3.5 pounds
Jack 5 pounds

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first i would like to gradulate you on your wonderful news
i remeber when i found out i was having triplets my own doctor told me that i should abort the pregency since having healthy triplets were very rare well needless to say i changed doctors and i am glad i didnt listen to him because todayi have three 13 year triplets

it sounds like your mom just hasnt had time to process the news

hopfully she will come around

sincerely and grateful for my gifts

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I am so sorry that you are feeling this way, but trust me, you are not the only one. My mom was very open and accepting of me and my babies, even the fact that they were triplets, however, she is pretty much the only one. I think it is bad enough to hear negative comments from people you don't know, but it is soooo much worse when it's people close to you saying hurtful things, it's like people don't think before they speak. My dad told me that he felt bad for me, that I just made my life difficult and would essentially be unhappy because I would have such a hard life, that I needed to get my tubes tied as soon as they were born, and on and on. I think the most hurtful things though, were when he told me that he didn't think I could do it, because I'm not married, and that at least he still had my sister, because he had goals for all of his children, and clearly, I messed up. I let it bother me at first, and then I just let go, I came to the conclusion that I am extrememly blessed and nobody has the right to take that away from me, but for awhile, he had me convinced that I had no right to be happy about my babies. Good luck, and hopefully she will come around. If not, no offense, but it is her loss, not yours. You are blessed and have every right to enjoy that blessing, regardless of what anyone else thinks.

Cassidy
27.6 weeks pregnant with ggg triplets