So what do you all use besides yelling? I feel like NO ONE listens to me unless I raise my voice. If I ask them to do something they usually ignore me.

For example-Turn the water off. They'll be at the bathroom sink and letting it run FOREVER when washing their hands. I'll say it 3 times and have to yell before they say "OKAY!" and actually turn the water off. This kind of stuff makes me want to pull my hair out in clumps.

If they are supposed to put the toy down and they won't do it I just take the toy and put it in Toy Time out.

What does everyone else do??? I HATE feeling like I'm yelling all the time and I HATE that they don't listen to me.

Julie
BGB ~ June 16, 2005 @ 31wks 3 days
Samuel Jonas (3lbs 11oz)
Leona Ruth (3lbs 5oz)
Gabriel Douglas (2lbs 11oz)

I'm right there with you. I count to 3 and don't get any reaction until I get up on 3 and then they throw a fit. I have tried time out, I've tried spanking and nothing is working right now. James is the worst he just laughs at me even if I spank him.

I'm afraid I might crack a tooth soon because I grit my teeth so much.

Misty
Abigail 2 lbs 14 oz
Katie 3 lbs 1 oz
James 3 lbs 6 oz
born 11/10/05
30w 5d

My attempt at a blog http://tripletblessed.blogspot.com/

It's SO hard but I have been doing my best to imitate their preschool teacher. She never yells and she has the softest, quietest voice. She uses redirection and simple explanations. For example she would say "Let's turn the water off. We don't want to be wasteful. It is time to dry our hands together now." while she encourages them towards the towels and turns the water off herself. I've been doing it for about 2 weeks now and I've noticed a huge difference in the kids. They are yelling less and more importantly listening more. Yes, there are times when I am still yelling...but I am trying!! My husband laughed at me but I put a note on the fridge that says "No Yelling!" along with some other notes for myself. They are rules for me, not the kids!

My kids go to a Parent Cooperative Preschool. To join the parent must take a Parenting with Love & Logic class, because we spend time helping the teacher in class and all of the parents need to be on the same page. There was quite a bit of it that my husband laughs at, but when I'm using it the frustration level in our house really goes down. I'm rereading the book right now (they also have DVDs & CDs), but I may retake the class as a refresher. It seems like I forgot everything that worked over the summer!

Good luck,

Misti
BBG 12/18/03

>My kids go to a Parent Cooperative Preschool. To join the
>parent must take a Parenting with Love & Logic class, because
>we spend time helping the teacher in class and all of the
>parents need to be on the same page.
>Good luck,
>
>Misti
>BBG 12/18/03

I love that book but I'm having a hard time applying it to 3 year olds. Any advice?? I've never heard of the class either. That's really interesting.

Did you read L&L for early childhood? It deals directly with little people situations. Here is a link to it

http://www.amazon.com/Love-Logic-Magic-Early-Childhood/dp/1930429002/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1222202005&sr=8-1

I think the book is great for helping myself as a parent react to the situations. Instead of lots of yelling, it gives me other ways to give the kids simple consequences. We do the uh-oh song that Lea talked about earlier. Sometimes even just an "uh-oh, you know that is not a nice thing to do and you need to go sit in time out". So the consequence always starts with the uh-oh. Very soon after you start using the uh-oh method, you will have them stopping in their tracts just when you say "uh-oh" with out anything following it.

Now that they are three, I also explain things to them, not lecture but just as the pp mentioned letting the kids know keeping the faucet on is wasteful is a big difference than just screaming to shut it off. The kids keep in mind WHY something shouldn't be done, other than just the Mommy says no reason. Which should be good enough for most instances, but we all know that is not the case, especially if we are not as consistent as we would like to be.

Good luck!

Laura & Don
BBB 5/05
www.ourbighappy.blogspot.com

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Thank you! I had no idea there was a L&L for younger kids. I will definetly be reading it.

Thanks for the book recommendation. I've got a borders GC and I'll pick that up since I'll have plenty of time to read during our long trip in the car.

Julie
BGB ~ June 16, 2005 @ 31wks 3 days
Samuel Jonas (3lbs 11oz)
Leona Ruth (3lbs 5oz)
Gabriel Douglas (2lbs 11oz)

The director of the preschool teaches the Early Childhood Love & Logic class. If you can find someone teaching it near you, I suggest a once a week for 5 or 6 weeks class versus the one day straight on a weekend. With the weekly class it gives you a chance to ask questions after you've tried the changes. The general all ages class is probably fine, but the Early Childhood birth to 6 info is going to be more applicable (thankfully we have awhile before curfew is an issue!)

If reading isn't your learning style, there are also CDs & DVDs available at loveandlogic.com

Misti
BBG 12/18/03

So there with you...I yell, my dh accuses ME of whining like the girls, no one listens, everything is a battle..I ALWAYS get to THREE before anyone takes any notice.

I may try the love and logic..

Alice

GGG born 9/3/05 at 35w3d