I have been so fortunate to have a great volunteer (not family) to help with my triplets almost since birth. This person has been so kind. However, she has also been crossing the line of privacy. She just takes over completely. I won't go into all the things but it seems every time she comes over there is something new that really bothers me. It is starting to be more stressful to have her here than being on my own. I have tried nicely saying "not today" and "not this week". She is trying everything.....today she just stopped by with a friend and called from my driveway. I feel I owe her to be kind after all the stuff she has done. I know she means well. I just can't take it anymore! Please help me!!! I feel like I need to be mean for her to understand.

Thanks!
Jane