I know that this is silly, but I'm discovering that those of us who have (a) been pregnant with triplets; and, (b) have lost one or more of our triplet babies, has something that could be called "triplet envy." I was so shocked to learn that I am not the only one who has suffered this phenomenon. Many of the lovely ladies that I've come to know better through this site have some of the same symptoms that I've had, and we've had the chance to compare notes and find that this is common and understandable.

Well, one of my dear friends here recently acquired a triplet RA for her "Irish quads," (surviving triplets and younger sibling), and then I learned that another friend of mine here had acquired a double RA for her surviving triplets.

Ladies, I just got a double RA for my babies. It is so strange, but knowing that it will be here soon is so exciting to me and it gives me such joy. In Southern California we routinely get together (all of the triplet moms) and there are so many RAs. Well, next time my babies will also be in an RA, and I will be more a part of the group and this truly makes me feel better.

Isn't that really strange??

Also, I'm still praying for triplets with my IVF transfer coming up in about 8 weeks. If you have room on your prayer lists, please toss this one up for me, okay?

I love you all and thought you might get a bit of a giggle, or even an "a-ha" (lightbulb) about the RA envy. It is good to be able to laugh at myself sometimes.

God bless you all in the healing process and please know that, even though I have setbacks and still cry about my loss, there are times when I throw back my head and laugh. If you're not quite there yet, please be assured that it will happen, in time.

Love,
Cat w/3 Kittens
Caidan, Carina and Caeleigh
born at 31 weeks, 1/8/04.

It is better to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at all. In memory of Carina, who was greatly loved.

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Cat,

Not strange at all. It's amazing the things that help us in our healing. It is ironic that many find the RA so ugly and seem to "settle" on it as a necessary evil with triplets (some even growing fond of it as if it were a trusted friend). It has become a symbol for "tripletness" to many of us. And now your munchkins will be riding in style like all the other triplets. Enjoy, and please share a picture of Caidan and Caeleigh sporting their new wheels!

MonsterMom6
10 year old ^b^ b twins @ 30w5d (1 survivor) and
8 year old gggg quads @ 32w0d

Good for you Cat! I remember when my sister and I decided to order our RA, then canceling the order shortly after. Maybe one day I'll be able to think about more children, but for now I'll just be happy with hoping and praying for you. For us, the decision to buy an RA took a lot of time, and I thought about all the arguments when I saw a mom with older twins and a newborn trying her very best to manage a Peg through the store the other day. I feel bad, but I had to giggle, especially when you think about all the posts you read on TC about how hard it is to move around. Have fun with you new cruiser! Send a pic when you get a chance to take one! We will be praying for you!

Faye
Ringmaster to Ashely15, Marky11, Steven9
Momma to bbb @ 23 wks
Jesse James ^i^
Wyatt James ^i^
Allen James 20 months and counting

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There's always room for a prayer for a fellow triplet mom Cat. I will be keeping you in my thoughts and prayers with your upcoming transfer. I hope you love your RA. Enjoy; you have many new beginnings that lie ahead.

Peggy

Peggy
mom to
Tricia 19
Lyndsay 18
Sydney 12
Millie 10 and
Robert, Julian and Max 9/2/03 @ 36wks
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I TOTALLY understand!! I still watch many triplet strollers on Ebay, adn of course you know I bought a RA and was watching the one you got. (I think it's the one you got.)

I bought the Inglesina because I just plain HAD to. My husband thinks I am stroller obsessed. I met a local triplet mom the other day who asked why I was so 'into' the strollers, after seeing the Inglesina, (with three seats) and the RA. Eric doesn't get it, and her, with 5 week old babies, I coudl not begin to explain it.

It is one of the last connections with our lost babies...the things we SHOULD have. The things we WISH we could have to contend with...

I haven't started painting my RA yet, but I will this season. I am glad I got it. Wish I had gotten a triple...always.

Congrats on getting yours...you'll love it, they are sooo light weight!


Erika



Many prayers your way...all my fingers crossed, too!

Mom to:
Matt (1991) Megan (1994) and ^Eric Jr^ Levi and Vivian (2003) at 26 weeks

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Good for you Cat, how much fun it will be to have a RA!

I've recently come into contact with two sets of intact trips - one set is in my sons' gymnastics class and another are at the pool each Tues. before our swim lesson. The Tues. triplets were born on my 40w due date and are a set of boys, kind of strange. They are not identical.

Not on your stroller topic but just a recent development in my life. I know about that stroller envy - especially when it comes to the RA bc I don't know anyone w/o triplets that has even heard of the stroller.

Good luck with your upcoming IVF transfer, I hope it is successful!

Marie

How fun! When we were selecting strollers for our trips, I told my dh there was NO WAY I was going to get an RA and draw all that attention. Now I would give anything to be a 3-baby circus walking about. The attention I get out and about with my survivors being called "twins" just annoys me. I'm glad you'll be able to feel part of the action, and I hope your kiddos enjoy their new ride. Who knows, maybe you'll be trading up on a Quint-RA next year (hee, hee!) to accomodate your new additions (here's crossed fingers for your IVF).

Thank you for all of your continued insights and encouragement along the healing process. I hate that you've gone through it too, but having you slightly ahead of me in this journey gives me hope that healing will continue. This week is the anniversary of my loss, so I'm especially raw right now. Thanks for a little levity!

Anne

Anne,

I'm sorry for your difficult week. I hate those anniversaries. This is the first year I haven't felt haunted as fall psses buy (my triplets were discovered on 9/21 and we discovered that my son had died on 12/21. I'm glad to be busy. For some reason this year has been very healing for me (my boys turned 3 in Jan).

In any case, ((((hugs))))to you this week.

Marie

I completely understand what you are saying. When I was pg with the triplets, my Mom's friend bought me the baby trend triplet stroller(not the one that I wanted) and we ended up returning after we lost Ethan. I couldn't even look at it because it made me so upset. I too, wanted an RA and to show off my triplets but of course we know what happened.

I have been having a really hard time lately and can't seem to write my feelings down. I read a lot of posts but just can't seem to put my thoughts down like you do. I have "triplet envy" almost everyday and have been crying a lot lately. I am getting a little tired of explaining myself and my "TWINS" to people!!!! I don't even want to take them out in public because I am still having a very hard time with all of the questions. I took the boys to something called Playaway today and of course everyone is like "ARE THEY TWINS"!!!! At first, I say "YES" because I don't want to deal with anyone but if we start talking and the subject comes up about how we had twins, I always tell them that they are triplets. I don't know what I am going to do when they go to school. Sometimes I think that I sound crazy and think are people going to think that I am insane when Jack & Ruark are in school? What I would do to say "I have triplets" and not have a tear in my eye or have someone say how sorry that they are about me losing Ethan. Anyway, I am just carrying on and I probably don't make any sense at all.

Send us some pics of your new RA.

I will pray that you get triplets!!!!

Take care and talk to you soon Cat.

Much Love,

Engrid
Jackson 4# 2oz
Ruark 3# 11oz
Ethan 2# 15oz our angel in heaven
All born on 12/23/02

Liam Ethan 8# 7oz born on 5/11/05