I was just wondering how long you moms who lost their triplets waited to get pregnant again? I lost my babies in August and my OB has told me it is okay if I want to try again. I know I shouldn't but I am afraid of what others will think if I get pregnant to soon, maybe they will think I've forgotten about my triplets. Although I will never forget them, I long to be a mother, to have a baby in my arms not just my heart. So here we go again on this long journey of ttc. I'm anxious to here your responses.


Kara
mom to BBG angels
^Alex^ ^Ethan^ ^Avery^ 8/12/06

My heart goes out to you. If you are ready to try, it is time.

God bless you and you are in my prayers for everything good, and the desire of your heart. May God fill your arms with another child, or even more.

Love,
Cat w/3 Kittens
Caidan, Carina and Caeleigh
Born at 31 weeks, 1/8/04.
It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all. In memory of Carina, who was greatly loved.

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Hi Kara,

I just wanted to tell you about my sil that is due in Jan 2007. My neice was born asleep on Feb 24th 2006. It was a planceta abruption and she was stillborn. They gave my sil the go ahead after her 6 week checkup and she was pregnant again the next month. This pregnancy has been uneventful except for the fact that my sil lives in the Er but can you blame her...nope. Hugs to you and good luck. You will never forget your triplets and always remember you are a mom NOW. PM me if you want to talk!!

Gerri
Makenzie 5.5
Charles and Charley 2.5

I had a m/c with my 1st pregnancy. I was devastated. It took over 3 years to get that pregnancy. It wasnt a triplet one, a singelton pregnancy.
I was told by so mnany people to take 6 months off. I didnt want to I WANTED A BABY THEN!
So I waited a few weeks maybe even a month till I went back the RE.
She gave me the go ahead and try whenever I would like.

****I should note that I was only about 7 weeks along when I m/c*****

Well I m/c October 6th.
I ended up getting a job a few weeks later.
I still wanted to go back into treatment.
EVERYONE said give myself time to mourn. I really was heartbroken.
Well I totally sunk myself into work.
Started working out and lost a lot of the weight I had gained on 3 years of meds.
I decided a few months down the line (about 3 months) that I was ready to try again, although the whole time i was fighting temptation to go back to the RE and start all over!
I waited for my period to begin on its own, which is a joke in itself!
I gave myself 1 month,
nothing.
so I booked an appt. went in and got the meds. to start my period.
by the time i was actually ACTIVLY TTC again it was around 5-6 months.
I got preg. the 1st cycle back with my oldest DD who is a singelton.

I was afraid the entire time.
When my dd was 2 we went back again and it took 2 cycles, got preg. with the trio and was even more afraid the entire time.

I have NEVER forgotten the child I m/c
The pain is still there.
and even now I am fighting back tears.
The anniversary is only a few short days away.
I am glad I ended up waiting a few months.
It gave me time to really mourn and to get my head above water.
Gave me enough time to seperate the mental challange of 1 preg. to another.

I now look at my oldest dd and think, wow IF I would have never m/c she wouldnt be here.
does that make any sense.
dong get me wrong I WANT that baby even know.
I STILL think. oh I would have a almost 5 year old.
HE/She would be doing this.

I guess my point to that is...
no matter how early you m/c a loss is a loss.
It hurts.
dont worry about what others tell you.
go with your heart.
You are not trying to replace your babies.
you are just ready to have a living child!
and you deserve them!

good luck in your journey.

sorry my post is so long a drawn out, but well thats me

I lost triplet boys a year ago on October 9 and 10. (Imagine having not one but two anniversay days.) My doctor suggested I wait 6 months before I try again. So I did. On my sixth month I resumed fertility. I was very scared but this was the only thing that I thought that might help me as well. Like you, I felt I just needed a baby to hold. Well lucky enough we got pregnant on our first month of fertility.I'm now 5 1/2 months pregnant with another boy nearing my triplet boys first anniversary. I haven't had any negative response from anyone asking why I was doing it again so soon....we received nothing but support. I'm a stlist and work with the public so I get all sorts of remarks and coments....but not a one on how could you get pregnant again so soon. Good luck to you on what ever you decide, just know that being prgnant again has made my situation a little easier to deal with.

K Liem

Hi Kara,

I am so very sorry for your loss, we waited a year before we started trying again...however we were told that we could do so after our 6 wk checkup.

I never forgot my babies nor felt that I was trying to replace them. As long as you and your DH feel ready to try again then that is the only opinion that you should hold to your heart.

My thoughts and prayers are with you....

Mum to BBG Triplets born Dec 2005 and BGB Triplet Angels taken to heaven at 20w6d and 21w5d in 2004.

Kara...

I had twins last year that passed away...Feb. 13, 2005. We decided to try again in July. It took a few in-vitro times, but we got pregnant in Dec. I also didn't want people to think I had forgotten them. By no means did I forget them & I never ever will. They are my first babies. When my trio get old enough, I will tell them of their brother & sister. I remember the day they died, I told DH that I was ready to start again. I was like you...I longed to be a mama. However, we waited till July so we could have some time to grieve & get my body back to somewhat normal.

You do what you feel best. You are a terrific mama & we know you will never forget those precious babies who are in heaven with all of ours. Best wishes & I'll pray for you.

Check us out at:
http://thewrighttrips.blogspot.com/

Isabel, Jasper & Jonah were born on July 1, 2006

And my twin angels in heaven ~
Olivia Layne - 2/13/05
Elijah Cain - 2/13/05

Kara I also believe it is your choice to make and don't worry about what others think. I will tell you that I am still coming up pregnant with a blood test, so you may want to get that checked out before you start trying again. Around 6 weeks my HCG was 24 and as of Wednesday it is 5. We don't plan on trying again until January, but I do long to be pregnant and hold my babies right now. I do understand that need for that.

~Michelle~
Angel Triplet Boys 8/10/06 ~21 weeks 5 days

^Zachary^Nathan^Alexander^

We didn't loose triplets, but we lost our little angel Abegail in April 2005. I was devistated, she was pregnancy 8 for me and should have been our first daughter. Per dr. orders, we waited two cycles to do a FET. That FET resulted in our trio.

My heart goes out to you. You will NEVER forget your angel babies. They will be in your heart forever and certainly long after others have forgotten about your tremendous loss. I find myself crying out of the blue when Abegail enters my mind.

I say if your heart is ready, it is time.

Jonna

G 25
B 17
B 13
G (Stillborn Angel 4/16/05)
BGB 1/06 @ 27 wks
Grandaughter 3

I am so sorry for the loss of your triplets. It has been three years and one month since my triplets were born and died. I got pregnant 4 months after my triplets died and delivered a son born healthy and full term. I have never forgotten about my triplets and I still have times were I still cry and miss them so much. I think that getting pregnant very soon after my loss did help with my greiving. But everyone is different and you need to do what is right for you. If you feel like you need to be pregnant soon than that is what you need to do. Do not worry what others will think. They will probably be very happy for you. Good luck in whatever you choose.


Stacey Lynn
Mom to thee angels Annabel Grace, Abigail Lynn and Aaron Marc. 9/1/03

L/C Noah Aaron 10/2/04
L/C Chloe Anna-Lynn 6/5/06

I didn't lose a baby...I lost a preschooler. But, I still wanted to get pregnant and have another child to fill the void. No one could ever replace her. Having another child after loss is a powerful healing tool. Your children will never be forgotten but having another chil(ren) will help pass the time in a positive way. As opposed to passing the time in a negative way, always focused on what you lost.

At first Emily's death defined me. I was a mother who lost a child. Now Emily's death is a part of who I am. It is a part of my history. I am now a mother who continues to live and go forward with life with one heck of a past.

I wish you the best at getting pregnant right away and for a great pregnancy.

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