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karalindThu Apr-12-07 02:46 PM
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#2693, "Fear of loosing my babies"


          

I know that I have made it five weeks farther in this pregnancy than I did with my triplets, but that does not take away the fear of having these babies and loosing them too. It is so hard for me to see that I have made it to a great milestone. I know that there is a 95% chance that they will be okay if born at 28 weeks but all I can consentrate on is that 5%. I thought that I would be able to breathe a sigh of relief if I could just make it to this point.

I don't know if all of you seen my post on the main board but my cervix has went down to 1.8cm from 2.2cm in a week. I know that I am doing my best to keep these babies in but it still doesn't feel good enough. I would hang upside down if I could! My doctor of course is on vacation so his partner told me to keep pillows under my butt as much as possible. I'm terrified of my babies being in the NICU. I know I better get over that.

I hate it that I couldn't take Nifedipine for preterm labor and it's the only kind that my doctor uses besides Mag

I don't understand why I was choosen to be one of the women who can't have a normal pregnancy. Not only did I have problems getting pregnant but I have to deal with all of this!

Also, did it ever hurt anyone when their babies kick? Baby A is really low and it is starting to hurt when he kicks me. It's like a stabbing pain. I don't think it is a contraction b/c it comes and goes in like a second. I feel like they are getting so much stronger and my body is going to evict them.

Sorry it's such a ramble, I just need to hear from others who have been where I have.

Kara
Mom to BBG Triplet Angels
^Alexander Ryan^^Ethan Cole^^Avery Lynn^
8/12/06 - 8/12/06

BG Twins @ 36weeks 4days
Alison 5lbs 14oz
Elijah 5lbs 7oz



  

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Catw3kittensThu Apr-12-07 03:19 PM
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#2694, "RE: Fear of loosing my babies"
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First of all, that severe pubic bone pain that you are describing is, in fact, probably a very good sign. It means that your pelvis is being stretched which also means that the babies are getting bigger. Yaaaaaaaaaay!!! Or, if it is really your little guy kicking you, then it means that he's feisty and strong and the quarters are getting cramped! Yaaaaaaaaaaaay!!

It is normal to expect bad things after experiencing such a catastrophic loss as you experienced with your triplets. But, frankly, I have it on fairly good vibes here that you are going to carry these babies to 30 weeks. You're already at the 28 week mark. Stay off your feet, keep your fanny elevated, and keep drinking up protein as much as possible. Also keep drinking Gatorade -- it can really help with the hydration and slow down PTL. If you carry them to 30 weeks, that's kind of a magic "sail through the NICU" mark, and you'll never really experience much of the NICU "ordeal."

BTW, having babies in the NICU can be terrifying, but Kara it is so much better to have them in the NICU than elsewhere. You are going to make it through this and go home with two healthy babies.

Also, my best advice to you on this is that when you next experience that stabbing pain, PRESUME its a contraction and go back to L&D. Let's be honest, girlfriend, one of the safest places for you right now is in L&D being supervised. Get them to put you in and stay there until the babies are born. (I know, sounds diabolical, doesn't it?? But, the truth is that if you are contracting, they should be able to do a better job of controlling that than you're able to do at home, and every additional day is buying growth and strength for the babies.)

You remain in my prayers every day, and I'm so thrilled that you're passing the 28 week mark now. No matter what happens, those babies are strong and viable and can be cared for without having serious problems. You need to hold onto this and stop worrying because your worries are being conveyed to those babies. Focus on happy thoughts and keep their environment happy, okay?

Keep us updated!

Love,
Cat w/3 Kittens
Caidan, Carina and Caeleigh
Born at 31 weeks, 1/8/04.
It is better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all. In memory of Carina, who was greatly loved.

http://b3.lilypie.com/bDA

  

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holstromaSat Apr-14-07 11:56 PM
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#2713, "RE: Fear of loosing my babies"
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Way to go girl! You are SO able to do this! You've been so brave, even though you've been afraid- and that says alot. I will keep praying for you and your little ones. They ARE going to make it and be healthy and strong. God bless you today!
Alyssa

holstroma
My three beautiful babies,
now with Jesus...
^Joshua Ronald^ 1/3/07-1/3/07
^Caleb Christopher^ 1/12/07-1/12/07
^Nathaniel Gregory^ 1/12/07-1/12/07

  

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rruvalcabaSun Apr-15-07 04:56 PM
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#2719, "RE: Fear of loosing my babies"
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Hey,

You are awesome. I just have to say. You have done an amazing job. You are so normal in the way that you feel and I could be there to see your beautiful healthy babies after they are born. You and your babies are going to be more than fine. You have been through too much to have it any other way. I know you can make it a couple more weeks. I pray for you daily. Hope to talk to you soon. Big Big Hug.

Raquel
Mom to triplet angels: Sophia, Steven Jr. & Xavier b/d 25w4d (11/26/06, & Sweet baby Joseph (11/14/07-11/14/07)
Eliana Grace-God has answered
Born 4/03/09

  

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