We were just completely surprised to find that I am pregnant. It took us 3 years of fertility treatments to have the triplets so never did I think we would be lucky enough to have a natural surprise. We are thrilled to be pregnant but I am really struggling with the emotions of all of this after losing our daughter a year ago. I just feel like I know every possible thing that can go wrong now and have lost that blissful ignorance I once had. I am having a hard time truly being happy without feeling guilty about it. Too, the hormonal changes of pregnancy are making me SO emotional and I find myself crying over Hadley all the time and that terrible aching loss feeling that came with the first months after her passing keeps returning. I even feel guilty posting this because I know I need to be happy that we are pregnant and I am it has just brought up so many emotions that I can't seem to sort out.

I'm hoping this makes sense and some of you who have made it through this process all ready can help.

Thanks as always,

Jessica
Mom to Parker, McKenna, ^Hadley^ born 10/9/07 28w5d
little brother Sawyer
and big sister Ashlyn
www.fourplusanangel.com

I don't think I can help, but congratulations! That's amazing that you're pregnant again. And I'm not expert, but I think all that you're experiencing is totally normal. I wish you a healthy, happy pregnancy!

Jessica,

Please do not feel guilty about posting here... I am thrilled for you congratulations!!! It tookl us three years to concieve the trio and it only happened thru IVF. My RE said that 9 out of 10 times women naturally get pregnant after multiples. We are not currently trying (but we are also not preventing). I figure we will try FET this summer unless nature takes its course.

I can say nothing but Congrats!!! you give me hope that it is possible. I can only imagine your anxiety. It is nice to have that blissful ingnorance...But at least now you know what you have to do to cook this precious baby until the end And dont worry you know we will all be there to cheer you on to the finish line..

www.havingtriplets.blogspot.com
www.thisisourLONGjourney.blogspot.com

Cathi

Our Precious Angels
^Raiden Landon^(B/D 10/17/08) 22wks
^Ryker London^(11/12/08-11/22/08)25w5d
^Gwyneth Bella^(11/12/08-12/1/08)25w5d

Megyn Velynda born 12/08/09 @ 35w 4 day

Congrats!!!!

With all my heart I wish you the best of luck. After losing all three of my triplets, my grief was so hard but I felt compelled to try again and with IUI I got preg. with baby Joseph who didn't make it. they all told me that I lost my triplets due to the triplet factor but apparently it was not the fact. I believe that after the birth of our trips due to trauma of placenta coming out first with our Xavier, I think my cervix was compromised when they pushed him back in and took me in for emergency C-section. So here I am on bedrest, had a cerclage, get progesterone shots weekly, and am doing everything I can to have this baby. While your situation is very different, don't be afraid to speak up and demand the extra care you deserve. I wish I would have been more demanding with the triplets and with baby Joseph. I wake up thinking about what would have been if they would have treated me this way with the triplets. I miss them so much. I also read a good book that is full of stat and realism, its harsh but has good info, its called "TRYING AGAIN" I have a copy and am willing to mail it to you if you'd like. Let me know, my email address is 1234angels@live.com

Raquel
Mom to triplet angels: Sophia, Steven Jr. & Xavier b/d 25w4d (11/26/06, & Sweet baby Joseph (11/14/07-11/14/07)
Eliana Grace-God has answered
Born 4/03/09

Thanks for all of the support ladies. I saw my OB and she is being extremely cautious and wants me to see the MFM within the next 2 weeks to talk about my risk factors for PTL this time around. I am relieved she is being cautious and really hope this pregnancy goes smoothly. It is a strange place to be though when you know all that can go wrong. Most people worry about complications of pregnancy I worry that the baby will be alive at my next visit. I'm getting a heart monitor so I can relieve my nerves some in between appointments.

Oh and here's the stupest comment I have had yet... "now it will be just like you have triplets again" Ugh! I'm amazed at what people can say.

Thanks again for the support. Cathi, I wish you SO much luck in your journey to get pregnant again.

Jessica
Mom to Parker, McKenna, ^Hadley^ born 10/9/07 28w5d
little brother Sawyer
and big sister Ashlyn
www.fourplusanangel.com