Hello, I just posted this on the roll call, but I just feel it's more appropriate to discuss here. I'm thinking that you will know what to do.
My name is Veronica and my partner's name is Yesi (the pregnant one).
We are 10 weeks 3 days pregnant, Yesi's second insemination using Chlomid worked!

We were told at 7wks6d that we were having triplets, we found you immediately (the book has really helped alleviate so much of the panic).

When we went in for our first OB/GYN appointment this week at 10wks1d, the US revealed 4 sacs, When we saw Fetus C at 7wks6ds, it had actually been fetus D. The real Fetus C stopped developing at 7wks6ds. Similarly but truthfully more painful, Fetus A's little heart stopped beating with gestational age 10wks1d. We are kind of reeling. We were getting used to the idea of our 3 little amigos, imagine that they were really 4, and now they are 2. We are frightened about getting through to the second trimester.

Also, weather they end up as twins or a singleton, is it strange to think of them as Quadruplets, and how can we honor that? They are really only known to us as Baby A and C (of course we have a huge list of A and C names that we were considering).

PS: I wish I didnt 'sound' this way, it's a bit of a scary time now. Thank you for any thoughts

Wow, that's a lot to deal with all at once, I'm sorry! But welcome, this is a great board. You've already hit on a huge issue for all of us here - waht to call/think of them as. I think we all think of our children as triplets (or quads in your case), regardless of how many are living today. It's a personal thing and if that's what works for you, you have every right to think of them that way.

Good luck to you both, hang in there, and keep us posted on how things progress.

Thank you for your acceptance & encouragement, it means the world to 'talk' in such a safe place where people understand these special circumstances.
Today feels better, still lots of fear but starting to imagine my 2 little beans in there growing healthy and strong. **prayers & thanks**

I love your babies names, everyone on here chooses GREAT names

Love Peace Happiness,
Vero + Yesi
EDD: 05/05/10
<A>10wks1d & <C>7wks6d
B&D in the oven :)

No matter what happens, this is a very safe place to talk. You will always be parents of quads, and it is normal to think of them as such. Please keep us updates how things are going. We are always here for you!

Karen
Mom to Patrick, William, and our Angel Hunter
7-14-08

So sorry about your loss. And I too agree, It is a personal decision to call them quads or triplets or twins. Just recently we went to an annual balloon release for parents who've lost a child, inutero or live birth. We've decide that even if we don't attend the annual event we will continue with the balloon release at their birth date. This is our way of honoring our triplet angels and their little brother. God bless,

Raquel
Mom to triplet angels: Sophia, Steven Jr. & Xavier b/d 25w4d (11/26/06, & Sweet baby Joseph (11/14/07-11/14/07)
Eliana Grace-God has answered
Born 4/03/09

Hi Veronica,
I am sorry for the loss of your two babies, I hope you guys are still holding onto two more healthy sweeties without any problems. Please update us when you have a chance. I do not have any magical words of advice, but maybe you can look at some of our blog links to see what we do to honor our angels. Prayers for you and Yesi.
Hugs, Nan xo

Nan~
In loving memory of my beautiful girls:
^Shelby Lee^, ^Megan Aimee^ and ^Lynne Barbara^,
March 6, 2009, born at 20 weeks, 0 days.
http://rememberingourtripletangels.blogspot.com/
http://forumforgrievingdads.com/

Im sorry for the loss of your two babies...

Everyone has a different way of honoring their babies.. I attend mass on their angelversaries to "be" with them.

Monique
Mom to 26.5wk triplets, born 09/14/06
^Nicole^
^Daniel^
Nathalie