Hello ladies:

I'm posting to ask for some advice. I have a friend who was pregnant with twins and delivered suddenly last week about two months early. Her daughter passed away but her son is doing well in the hospital. I would like to show my support by sending her something but I'm not sure what would be appropriate or best. I've thought about gift cards for food since she is dealing with having one in the NICU still, and I've wondered if some type of tribute or memorial gift would be appropriate. I was also thinking of a donation in her daughter's name. I just don't know what would be helpful/healing or if anything I'm thinking of might end up being hurtful. I would love your advice. I'm not local to her, so anything that I do would have to be something I can send. Is there anything I can do to show support during her loss but also celebrate her surviving twin?

Thank you so much for your advice.

Kristen

Kristen,

I think gift cards for food would be a nice idea.

I think a donation would be nice as well. If they've not specified one (I'm guessing not, since you're wondering if that's a good idea), perhaps a charity that they are fond of supporting, the local March of Dimes chapter, or the NICU. A friend of mine bought a tree in our daughter's name from an organization that sends trees to wildfire areas. My sister named a star after my daughter. Another friend sent a little stained glass angel ornament with my daughter's name on it.

I don't think that anything you do that would acknowledge her daughter and her loss would be hurtful to her. I personally loved anything that had my daughter's name on it.


Amy

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