Any support groups for marriage related issues resulting from mulitple blessings?

Howdy sir. You could go to Father2Father....a more male oriented web-site. Though I've only been there a short time, and I haven't discussed marriage issues.

We just brought a newborn adopted baby home, then found out we're having triplets! So we're calling them our Irish Quads.

Even now I think that it will take super-human strength to make everything work...but there's a lot of men and woman on these two sites that will vouch that it can be done.

So...as for relationship advice - mine is worth what you pay for it - but I really think folks like Stephen Covey have it down....If your a Seven Habits of Highly Effective People fan...apply it to any relationship or life situation, and I think you'll find improved results.

Good luck to you. I'd be interested to talk more about the effect multiples have had on your marriage if you are.

John, Steph, and Baby Lyla (12wks) with 3 in the cooker (18wks).

Hello!

All I know is that one can easily divide mariage into life before and life after multiples. Perhaps those with spaced kids wade into family life a little more gently -- rather than tossed into the malstorm like those of us without any previous children.

Like any relationship, communication and an understanding of the expectations each others' roles really is important. Making time for each other, and not letting being a parent overshadow being a husband and wife is also important. It sound selfish, but being husband and wife should come first...it is more important than being good parents. Being good parents needs the foundation of being a loving, caring couple.

Father2Father is a good site to bounce ideas around on.


Vaughn and the ABC Boys
Alex, Bryce, & Calder
3-31-97 @ 28.5 weeks

>Hello!
>
>All I know is that one can easily divide mariage into life
>before and life after multiples. Perhaps those with spaced
>kids wade into family life a little more gently -- rather than
>tossed into the malstorm like those of us without any previous
>children.
>
>Like any relationship, communication and an understanding of
>the expectations each others' roles really is important.
>Making time for each other, and not letting being a parent
>overshadow being a husband and wife is also important. It
>sound selfish, but being husband and wife should come
>first...it is more important than being good parents. Being
>good parents needs the foundation of being a loving, caring
>couple.
>
>Father2Father is a good site to bounce ideas around on.
>
>
>Vaughn and the ABC Boys
>Alex, Bryce, & Calder
>3-31-97 @ 28.5 weeks

Hi there,

This is a question we deal with on a daily basis and it isn't easy. For us, we find that most of our energy is spent on the children and we don't get a lot of time for ourselves or our relationship. Our triplets are three and need to be kept amused or out of trouble most of the day. You also have to make sure the house keeps functioning as well. At the end of the day you are stuffed and just want to tidy up and have a rest.

We very rarely go out as a couple as we find this puts a lot of pressure on other family members. Over the last three years I think we have both had moments we are not proud of but as you know it is an incredibly stressful situation. We both love each other but it is the demands of multiples that wear you down. I would love to have more us time and I hope this happens when the kids go to school in a couple of years. I guess the important thing for us is to support one another and try and stay on the same wavelength. As we always say it is not a competition.

I don't know of any support groups so that was why I came here. There is not a lot of father support as most guys use Father 2 Father.

Hope this helps to let you know that you are not alone and we all go through this.

Regards

NZDad
5 yr old B
3 yr old BBG

Our 3 daughters are due in October, which means they will be coming around the first of September.
Currently we have a 5 year old son and there has been a lot of talk on how we are going to ensure he gets just as much attention as the triplets.
Both my wife and I have had short fuses lately. Wondering how we are going to make ends meet with the arrival of 3 more family members.
It comes down to making sure we never go to bed angry, and never having a diagreement in front of our son.
I know it is easier said than done.