I e-mailed our boys teacher about a sensitive issue last evening. In my mind this communication is confidential. Well, according to my boys, the teacher read the majority of the e-mail to the class.... How should I respond to this? Or was this appropriate? We are concerned about issues of bullying one of our boys is having with anohter student. The school they attend is small and there is only one classroom for each grade.

Sorry if this rambles...I'm totally at a lose as to how to handle-go to the principal and discuss or just ignore and try to have no communication with the teacher unless absolutely necessary. I don't know if talking to the principal would be kept confidential or not, I work as a substitute for her and think she's really good, but just really sure what to do. Thanks for any imput!

Pam
BBB 9/98

Check your district for it's "bullying policy". We have a policy in place which includes a "bullying hotline". We can contact our principal directly or contact the district via the hotline.

I would have something to say to the teacher about reading emails to students. If she wants to have a lesson in bullying, then she should not be referencing correspondance. I do hope she didn't identify the sender.

MonsterMom6
10 year old ^b^ b twins @ 30w5d (1 survivor) and
8 year old gggg quads @ 32w0d

Did you include any heartfelt sentiments? If so, perhaps the teacher thought it would be a good teaching opportunity to show the class exactly how bullying makes students AND their parents feel.

Of course if she identified the sender and the students involved then she was totally in the wrong and I would request a meeting with her and the principal present to discuss the ramifications of identifying you and your boys and possibly the bully, for example it could make the bullying worse.

MTM - mom to Michael(84),Stephan(85), Thomas, Matthew and Kathryn - born 12/27/99 at 32w 0 days

It's hard to believe that the teacher wuold read any parents email to the class about a problem her child is having. I'd say you need to address it first with the teacher and if she does nothing then take it up with the principle. Also, the bullying needs to be addressed as well immediately.

Kim
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I am a teacher and her behavior is totally inappropriate. Any communication about a student from a parent should be considered confidential and this teacher totally violated your children's right to privacy. I would be livid and I would definitely not just let it go. A conference is definitely in order.

Vesta

GGG
35w2d
8/10/00

Wow, that violated every parent-teacher confidentiality rule possible. Contact the principal and demand a meeting Monday. This behavior is unprofessional no matter what her intentions were.
Tracey
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I keep checking to see what happened? Did you go in to talk to them? Did the situation get better?

I keep checking to see what happened? Did you go in to talk to them? Did the situation get better?

I keep checking to see what happened? Did you go in to talk to them? Did the situation get better?

Sorry I haven't update this... In the middle of all this, my father passed away, so I've been going a whole other direction. I'm now home and trying to pick back up on things. When I left DH said we would just "shut up and color" for a while and see what happens.

We are in a difficult situation whatever we do. I substitute teach at this school and this is our first year having the boys at this school. We transferred them to this school, out of our district where we lived because of severe bullying issues. My other son had a super super teacher that just always seemed to be on top of things. She asked me about it once and thought she had detected something going on and simply said she would take care of it, and did.

Now, we have to apply each year to go back to this school. Other than this issue, it has been great. It's a small school with about 200+/- students in K-12. Much like where I went to school.

I will update if anything else happens. I tend to not want to speak with the principal and see what happens, what if she didn't read the whole e-mail and the boys just knew what she was talking about ??

My husband said things were some calmer while I was out of town, but then they knew why I was gone and may have just been being polite etc.

Thanks so much to everyone for listening/reading etc.!

Pam
BBB 9/98

I have nothing to add about the e-mail, but wanted to give my sympathy on the loss of your father.

Kari S.

Mom to BBB 21, 18, 14
BBG 9/25/01

Part of my last post isn't here I just realized. When I said that we transferred our boys to another school for bullying, it was for things like one of my sons was told to ....go home and kill himself...by 2 other students. That teacher thought there was nothing wrong with that.

The other son wouldn't go to the restroom at school because he would ...get hurt or be in trouble....

My other son had the one teacher that was on top of things and stopped something before it got any worse.

Now I don't know what to do or think with having these problems at the new school.

Pam
BBB 9/98