I am SO FURIOUS with my girls!!!! For the millionth week in a row, I picked them up from Playball to hear about their misbehavior.

Today, Camille & Meredith were laying on top of some poor other girl. And the coach asked them to stop, and as soon as she turned her back, they were right back at it.

Just to add insult to injury, Camille kept hitting Elise throughout the 45 minute class.

This behavior apparently always pops up when the class is doing a skill that they can't do. The thing is, all of my kids are way behind w/r/t their motor skills, and they sure didn't inherit any athletic ability from me. So this is truly just something that they have to learn to deal with. They can't attack other kids every time they get frustrated!

So far, I have taken away priviledges, spanked, talked through it and explained appropriate reactions, spoken numerous times with the coach to let her know that I fully support her in disciplining them as needed, etc.

What else am I supposed to do? I really don't want to pull them out. They are already so far behind, and it's a great program that I really feel like they are getting a lot out of. They are in the class for kids who are a little younger than them (Elise's age), but the other kids are the same size. I don't think my kids realize they are the oldest.

HELP!!

BGG born 4/25/05 at 31w1d




New baby girl born 9/19/06

I think multiples would be more likely to have these issues since they never really learn personal space issues since they feel like their siblings bodies are their bodies.

Is there not enough teachers to address issues like these when they arise? If not, you should be there to step in when needed. IF the girls LIKE the class, you may need to use the class as their currency. Talk to the teacher and see how she feels about you being there.

If they are being disruptive, take them out of the class when you see them acting that way. All business like and not angry. Just an "uh oh" type of reaction. "Oh this is sad, when we can not be nice/listen to the teachers/keep our hands to yourself we can not stay in class."

I am thinking you may only need to do this for one class before they realize that their actions have immediate consequences. If I was to punish my kids for something they did an hour ago, they would have no connection in their little minds that the two even go together.

Do they rough house like that at home? My kids do all the time, but we are very serious about stopping when the other person says to stop. Respecting other people is a huge thing here. If someone says no more or please stop, hands off. Try enforcing that a bit more maybe and see if that helps in class.

Good luck!

Laura & Don
BBB 5/05
www.ourbighappy.blogspot.com

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>I think multiples would be more likely to have these issues
>since they never really learn personal space issues since they
>feel like their siblings bodies are their bodies.

Yeah, I guess I never thought about that. I will start having conversations about it. Any suggestions on teaching it? Half the problem is that among each other, they LIKE it. So they don't really seem to get that other kids don't.



>Is there not enough teachers to address issues like these when
>they arise? If not, you should be there to step in when
>needed. IF the girls LIKE the class, you may need to use the
>class as their currency. Talk to the teacher and see how she
>feels about you being there.

There are 8 kids and 1 teacher, which is definitely a bit bigger than I would prefer. I have asked several times if I can stay in the room, and she really doesn't want me. Her comment is that there are 2 kids in there that are really attached to their mommas, and she thinks that if I go in, they are going to want their moms too.



>If they are being disruptive, take them out of the class when
>you see them acting that way. All business like and not
>angry. Just an "uh oh" type of reaction. "Oh this is sad,
>when we can not be nice/listen to the teachers/keep our hands
>to yourself we can not stay in class."

This is probably the answer. Ugh. I hate pulling them out when we are paying for it, but I can't keep letting them ruin the class for everybody else.



>Do they rough house like that at home? My kids do all the
>time, but we are very serious about stopping when the other
>person says to stop. Respecting other people is a huge thing
>here. If someone says no more or please stop, hands off. Try
>enforcing that a bit more maybe and see if that helps in
>class.

The roughhousing at home isn't too bad. Usually it seems like everybody gets tired of it at the same time, so it hasn't been much of a problem. I need to do more teaching in this area too.

BGG born 4/25/05 at 31w1d




New baby girl born 9/19/06

Then you need to get in their space at home. Yes crowd them out. Sit so close to them that they are uncomfortable. if this does not work then have dad do it.

Then when they are in your space tell them oh honey this is mommy's space. see this is your personal space and this is mommy's.

Talk with your OT about it and let her know it is an issue you would like her to help you address

BBG Triplets Born March 31, 2004
31 weeks three days
Douglas
Kalie and
John Michael

If you have to take them out of class for poor behavior, it may only take once. I pulled DS out of gymnastics for not following directions and that was all it took.

I'm with you on not wanting to waste the $ though!

Tiffany
BBG @ 31.4 weeks
on 11/27/06
3.11
3.6
2.14



baby girl born on 7/24/08