I am SO FURIOUS with my girls!!!! For the millionth week in a row, I picked them up from Playball to hear about their misbehavior.

Today, Camille & Meredith were laying on top of some poor other girl. And the coach asked them to stop, and as soon as she turned her back, they were right back at it.

Just to add insult to injury, Camille kept hitting Elise throughout the 45 minute class.

This behavior apparently always pops up when the class is doing a skill that they can't do. The thing is, all of my kids are way behind w/r/t their motor skills, and they sure didn't inherit any athletic ability from me. So this is truly just something that they have to learn to deal with. They can't attack other kids every time they get frustrated!

So far, I have taken away priviledges, spanked, talked through it and explained appropriate reactions, spoken numerous times with the coach to let her know that I fully support her in disciplining them as needed, etc.

What else am I supposed to do? I really don't want to pull them out. They are already so far behind, and it's a great program that I really feel like they are getting a lot out of. They are in the class for kids who are a little younger than them (Elise's age), but the other kids are the same size. I don't think my kids realize they are the oldest.

HELP!!

BGG born 4/25/05 at 31w1d




New baby girl born 9/19/06

actualy not having respect for personal space is something you should be working on with them. As when they enter school you will not be there to help them with these issues. It also shows signs of sensory issues and maybe even some underlying behavioral and developmental issues. And no they will not just have to learn to deal with it, you should be working with them to help to be the best they can be at these skills.

Okay so this may be coming across as harsh but it is getting old, children are going to be children and you are right they are frustrated as they do not know how to do the skill so teach them the skill and while you are at it teach them personal space.

do any of your children draw if so have them draw stick people see how they do it that will tell you a lot about how they view personal space. If they just draw a head with arms and legs then they have issues with personal space and it could be related to behavioral as well as developmental issues. ( I learned this through my childrens OT and ABA therapist.)

BBG Triplets Born March 31, 2004
31 weeks three days
Douglas
Kalie and
John Michael

do any of your children draw if so have them draw stick people see how they do it that will tell you a lot about how they view personal space. If they just draw a head with arms and legs then they have issues with personal space and it could be related to behavioral as well as developmental issues. ( I learned this through my childrens OT and ABA therapist.)


Just curious if they said what type of stick person does the opposite draw.. I'm just asking because Hunter is always drawing different stick people.

April


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I will ask tomorrow when we go back for you. All three of mine draw with no bodies

BBG Triplets Born March 31, 2004
31 weeks three days
Douglas
Kalie and
John Michael

RoseMarie,

Ellie has actually been saying "I need space" if she feels someone is getting too close. Of course she is imitating me, like when I'm making dinner and they are all underfoot.

Any special tips on teaching them to respect personal space?

Thanks,
Susan

Susan

It seems like Ellie has a great sence of Space it may be the other two who have issues with it,

Some things we have done in therapy is
To sit really close to the ones with issues, so close it is uncomfortbale for them, by doing this you are showing them how they feel. after a day or two of this we would start to tell them when they get too close to us that they are in our space and to define our space and his space when we do this. A year later there are still a few outburst when he is over tired etc but for the most part he gets it.

BBG Triplets Born March 31, 2004
31 weeks three days
Douglas
Kalie and
John Michael

Yes I suppose Ellie does get "space" but with her it's like "Get the he!! away from me!" She tends to do that when she's crabby and tired.

I actually play, cuddle, hug my kids all day long. I don't think they have any sensory issues, I just never really thought about teaching them about the basic idea of personal space. Something for me to think about.
Thanks.
Susan

Susan

>actualy not having respect for personal space is something
>you should be working on with them. As when they enter school
>you will not be there to help them with these issues. It also
>shows signs of sensory issues and maybe even some underlying
>behavioral and developmental issues.

James & Camille both have sensory issues, and both are getting OT that focuses a lot on it. I also have tons of exercises that we do at home daily to work on it.

I haven't really worked on the personal space issue. Ideas for that?


>And no they will not just
>have to learn to deal with it, you should be working with them
>to help to be the best they can be at these skills.

All 4 of my kids are in physical therapy. All 4 do The Little Gym weekly, and Playball (beginning sports skills) weekly. All three big kids also do ballet & tap. I have tons of exercises (balance, strengthening, coordination, stretching and skill-focused) that we do everyday. I truly don't think there is anything else I can do for them in that area. They are making great progress, but of course when you are really far behind, and everyone else is making progress too, you just never seem to come even close to catching up. I think it is just a fact of life that they are never going to excel at these things. And I really do think they are just going to have to accept that. We plan to hold them back in 4K twice, and hopefully that will help some.



>Okay so this may be coming across as harsh but it is getting
>old,

What is that supposed to mean? I know you are annoyed with me for some reason, because your replies to me are always...well...in this tone. When I don't complain about my issues, I'm "pretending I'm perfect". When I do, it "gets old". What is it you want from me? If I get on your nerves so badly, just quit reading my posts!



>do any of your children draw if so have them draw stick people
>see how they do it that will tell you a lot about how they
>view personal space. If they just draw a head with arms and
>legs then they have issues with personal space and it could be
>related to behavioral as well as developmental issues. ( I
>learned this through my childrens OT and ABA therapist.)

We have worked and worked and worked on drawing people, just because I have been working on proper grips, so I don't think this test would really work for us. Before we were practicing, it was really weird. Camille's would have one ear floating off in the top left corner, another in the bottom right. It was like everything was disconnected. I do know that we have developmental and behavioral issues, and have a gazillion things going trying to figure out what to do. She is getting weekly play therapy, OT, and PT. We have an appt at the end of April to be evaluated for the school system's special needs preschool.

BGG born 4/25/05 at 31w1d




New baby girl born 9/19/06

need to reword...I will re-post later

BBB Triplets Born 2003