My kids are all in the same kindergarten class because we only have one kindergarten teacher. When they are IN class, they are doing great. They have no problems with behavior so far being together.

BUT they come out and they are already fighting over the same friends. Sarah made friends with a little girl and Amanda wanted her first. So Amanda is jealous because Sarah and this other girl trade pictures with each other.

So Amanda went and stole Gregory's "girlfriend" and now they trade pictures and Gregory is mad because that is HIS girlfriend.

So, yeah, I don't see keeping them together for first grade. Did anyone separate simply because of Friend Fighting?

Michele
Sarah, Gregory, Amanda
born 1/22/04 at 35w1d

Our surprise baby Austin born 06/15/2005

www.fourtimesthefun.blogspot.com

LOL I am sorry I don't mean to laugh. But I have to say it's kinda cute that Gregory is mad that Amanda stole his girlfriend! LOL

We haven't had that issue. I only have one girl and the boys seem to have no problem sharing friends.


Terri~
12/21/01 at 33 weeks

Mine have been separate since K and they "friend fight" a little bit, but not to that extent! One of the boys has a friend that checks every day to see which shoes M is wearing so he won't run up to the wrong boy on the playground. He'll play with both of them, but M is his BEST friend.

I just tell them they can all be friends and it's OK to have different friends and go fight somewhere else where I can't hear. Works for me.

Kari S.

Mom to BBB 21, 18, 14
BBG 9/25/01

Oh, Michele!! That's priceless!!

Frankly, something I've seen is that most days my kids sit next to each other for lunch, although I'm seeing less of it this past week or so. Anyway, there is this little boy who dearly adores Caidan and wants to sit next to him, and keeps trying to scoot Caeleigh over so he can wedge in between them. She's having none of it, and Caidan does nothing to assist Lucas in cutting in.

I get this great kick out of it because it's clear to me that the bond between them is strong and that neither of them says a word -- they just don't let it happen, unless they've deliberately chosen to sit apart. Again, I've only seen that a couple of times.

Cat w/3 Kittens
Caidan, Carina and Caeleigh
Born at 31 weeks, 1/8/04.

Yep. My girls fight over sitting next to a particular girl on the bus. I think it will get better as they get to know more kids and find their own friends. Mine have very different personalities so hopefully will eventually find their own friends.

Of course, there was a bit of fighting last year over one boy. He really was my son's best pal. My son just told his sisters that was his friend and they needed to leave him alone. Too funny.

Maybe you could coach Amanda on how to make her own friends. I think having 2 girls will be much harder as they get older...it seems like girls can just be meaner to each other than boys are. I already got a book about tween's friendships to start studying. Not looking forward to all those tears. Maybe there will be fewer since our multiples have had to figure out social stuff in their own group basically since they were toddlers.

I think that it's better for them to learn these lessons now rather than later. Once they get to middle or high school they will basically be in the same class, since everyone is going from room to room. Let them figure it out now and hope that will make them better friends, at least at home, later on.

In K there was a little girl that frequently told Jacob that she was going to marry him. She wrote him little notes & drew pictures for him. Well one day when I was in the class both the boys were sitting next to her and she looked at me and said "I'm going to marry Jacob, no..... Daniel, well maybe........ Jacob" Of course both the boys were mortified, neither one wanted that kind of attention!

Shell~
B/B/G 1/7/2000

I'm sorry. I kinda laughed, too.

My girls have had no fights about friends yet.

But, one of their teachers did inform me that she suggested they go over to a classmate and help him with a puzzle and they looked at each other and just stood there.

The teacher was like: What is it, girls?

They replied: Well, he's a boy.

Nice.

My sister and I are only a year apart and we totally fought over friends. It sucked. I'm sure that is one of the reasons that I felt so strongly about separating my boys.

Good luck!

Kelly
Ben, Jack & Drew 05/28/02
Charlie 07/06/06
Aunt to: Liam, Aidan & Connor 03/05/08
www.outnumberedmommy.blogspot.com

I'm totally in the same boat! My kids fight over who is their best friend. They don't like their sibs to sit by "their" best friend on the bus. The girls are very identical and don't like it when people confuse them. We also have issues when one gets invited to a party and the others don't.

I felt the same way about separating them next year. Then I thought....OK, it's only been a month. Let's see if they work this out before we make any decisions about next year

In the meantime......I have taken to telling them I only want to hear about their fight if there is blood, bone, or hair on fire

Kim
Mom to Grace, Gabe, Sophie
born 8-11-03