First grade is coming on strong! My ds was a wreck a total mess of emotions after school. After about an hour he told me that this boy in class told him that he would kill him. My ds was shaking. I called the mother of the boy and she found out that he said that because he was jelous and angry (please excuse my spelling). That this boy is angry over the friendship my ds has with his best friend in the same class. I feel like that is a pretty strong statment for a 6 year old boy to make out of anger. This is not the first time this boy has scared my ds. He, in kindergarden, put his hands around my ds neck. I am setting up an appointment to talk with the principle. I think that this boy needs to be delt with. I don't think I'm over reacting am I? How would you handle it? School started in Sept. it's Oct. and I need a vacation.
Donna Mom to Tyler, Samantha, Zackary and Honey Bear our English Mastiff

I have not had to deal with bullies yet, but I think I would do the same thing.

I agree that was a strong statement to make. What is his mother doing about it? It seems to me that the mother and the teacher need to be involved with the meeting also. She needs to deal with his anger issues at home as well as at school.

Dawn

Mom to Samantha, Jeremy, Paige and Christian

Born 12/12/03 @ 31w 2d



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Dawn,
Thank you. We had our meeting with the principle and she is helping us, my ds and the other boy. I'm very happy with how things turned out. I just hope I never see my ds that scared again. But I am very happy with the schools responce.
Thank you again,
Donna Mom to Tyler, Samantha, Zackary and Honey Bear our English Mastiff

A lot of people use the expression "I will kill you" but don't mean it literally. I don't think it is as common now, but we used it growing up all the time. I used to say it to my sister daily!! I never really would have, of course. It was a way of saying "I'm mad at you".

Every kid does stupid things at some point. I wouldn't hold putting hands around my kid's neck a year ago against this kid if it was a one-time thing.

I think my reaction would depend on how the boy's mom said she would deal with it. I would probably leave it alone if she said "oh, man, I am so sorry! I have found out that he is jealous and angry, and I will be working with him on how to react more appropriately when he feels that way."

If on the other hand, she said "yeah, well, boy's jealous. Caint hep it, just like his deddy, the no-good drunken b*st*rd. I don't thank he'd really do nothin' - don't worry. He aint gonna kill your boy.", then I would probably call the principal or teacher.

You do need to teach your son how to deal with this kid. Stand firm and say "I don't like it when you talk that way. I'm not playing with you because you aren't nice." Or whatever you want him to do. If he has a plan of action in place the next time, he will be better prepared. He also needs to be ready to stand up for friends who are in that kind of position. If this boy says something to your son's friend, your son should still react "I don't like it when you talk to my friend that way, so WE aren't going to play with you."

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Hi,
We spoke with the principle and she was very concerned. It's one thing to say I'm going to kill you and when asked why you said it to say I didn't mean it, but it's another thing to say it because you are jealous and angry. At 6 years of age that's a temper. I can't just leave it up to the mother of this boy to punish him at home. How do I know his mother just didn't say don't say those things. What got me is how scared my son was. He has no problem sticking up for himself but this boy scared him, I hope I never see him that scared again. I liked the plain of action that the school is going to take. Sometimes I think we let things go by saying kids will be kids. You know when something is seriously wrong. I'm happy that the school is helping me help my child not to feel scared of this boy. And I'm happy that they will work with this other boy.
Donna Mom to Tyler, Samantha,Zackary and Honey Bear our English Mastiff