Yesterday one of my boys was sent to the principals office for "putting his hands on another boy". I saw the incident and my son was on the ground and had his hands wrapped around another boys leg. It was not dangerous or aggressive in anyway, but I understand that the school has rules and I respect that.

Anyway, so my question to all of you is...if your child does something at school and is sent to the principals office for discipline, do you also punish them at home? My husband and I are going to punish him (he will lose TV for 2 days), but I am wondering what everyone else does. This is the first time any of them have been sent to the office, and we want to send a message that this is not acceptable!!!

Please tell me your thoughts!

BTW...my son wants to do nothing but watch TV so taking it away from him for 2 days is going to be torture for him!

Dawn

Mom to Samantha, Jeremy, Paige and Christian

Born 12/12/03 @ 31w 2d



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I'm still trying to process how your DS's "crime" warrants a visit to the principal's office. Isn't that incident kind of innocuous and could have been diffused by a teacher? Was it horseplay on the playground or mean and aggressive?

Anyway. I think I would do a little punishment at home, too. I understand that punishment happened at school, but I think I would reinforce something at home, too.

Do you have any fun plans this weekend? Something that maybe he would miss out on?

Good luck. This is a tough one.

Lisa

I agree that I would not have sent him to the prinicpals office. I do think this was blown out a bit...but I understand. The school is VERY strict with their "hands off" policy. Right now they are running a reward program called "Hands and feet to ourselves". If the class get a certain number of "tickets" for not putting their hands or feet on someone, then they get a special treat. The only thing I can think of is that they are trying to send a strong message. I just really think they went over board with it.

The punishment we have chosen is no TV for 2 days. He loves all thing electronic and they are not allowed to play video games or computer games during the week, so the only electronic thing he has left is TV. It will actually torture him for the next 2 days because he loves it so much.

We do have plans this weekend, but I can't take that away because family is visiting and we don't get to see them much.

Thank you for your thoughts!

Dawn

Mom to Samantha, Jeremy, Paige and Christian

Born 12/12/03 @ 31w 2d



http://lovinglifewithquads.blogspot.com

We absolutely give out home punishment for things done outside of our home, this not only includes school but church, cubs, sports and even in the neighborhood. We feel that they need to understand that even though there may be consequences already paid for there, that they still have to meet our standards here and deal with whatever the punishments may be.

Kim
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I punish at home if they "pull their card" at school. We've never had a serious incident.

Last year DS was sent to the principal for kicking another student. He lost his temper and reacted in the moment during a "line cutting" incident. Quite out of character for him, but there were issues in the classroom (a lot of mean and snarky kids and the teacher was a mouse) and he had just had enough. He had a consequence at school. We had a talk at home, but did not give him home consequences THIS time. Tough call, but thought in this case he needed understanding. But it was clear that there would be a home consequence if it happened again.

I think we have to take things on a case-by-case basis. But anything related to disrespect, disobedience, etc will have greater consequences.

MonsterMom6
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I think your boy's school went overboard. It's normal for boys to roughhouse with each other, and an important learning curve for them to learn to curb aggression, and also so they can channel some of their energies. If my children do misbehave in school, I will punish, but on a case by case basis. For instance, one of my sons was slapped so hard across the face by another boy, the mark was still there when I collected him from school. My son punched the boy, who was a known bully and had been giving him grief for a while. He never bothered by son again.

UK mum to Aaron 18, and Jasper, Eleanor & Nathaniel 11 born 17/3/99 33wks2days