As my three are getting older I'm finding that my son is having more trouble playing with his sisters. I realize that gender issues can make it hard for the 3 of them to all play sometimes, but it seems like a constant struggle.

He often goes and messes up what they are playing with (usually dolls of some kind) and they yell at him. Any suggestions on keeping the peace????

Thanks,

Andi
GBG triplets
will be 8 in the fall and starting 2nd grade

I don't have any real suggestions but just want to say that I'm right there with you. My 5.5 year old triplet son does exactly the same thing with this triplet sisters. He sees the girls playing nicely together, maybe working on a puzzle, and he'll go walk right on the puzzle to mess it up. Drives me crazy. I have learned to watch for this kind of thing and when I see him getting bored, I quickly try to find something for him to do, even it's helping me unload the dishwasher.

I ask him why he does this and he says "they won't play with me", but what I really think he means is "I don't have anyone to play with". I don't think he's really interested in what their doing, but he just bored and wants a playmate. I just don't have the time to schedule playdates for him every weekend.

I don't know the answer to this one. I'll be interested to see what others suggest.

Joan
mom to Caroline, Erin and Robbie
born 9/26/05 @ 35 weeks
visit us at http://www.babyhomepages.net/greenetriplets

Yuk guys need to make a point of having a neighborhood boy or classmate over all the time. That would help immensely.

Wish I could offer advice too. I am in the same situation with my 5.5 year olds. My issue though is with my girl (I have GGB triplets) She likes to cause drama when the other two are playing nicely. We have good and bad days. I think you are right that they just feel left out.

It is the "third wheel" syndrome, seriously. When I have only two with me and one is with Daddy, everything is great. But as soon as all three are back together things go crazy.

Inviting someone to play is not always the answer. We have no close neighbors with kids the same age. Hopefully once Kindergarten starts we will start getting friends.

Suzan

g/g/b August 21, 2005
my miracle 24 weekers!!!!

Sadly most of the nearby neighbors are girls also. Poor kid, he has told me he wants a brother but I just don't see that happening. The girls are getting better at trying to play things he can do too sometimes. The other day a classmate was over, and they noticed she was not as nice about including him. (and this is someone who really LIKES him, but only child excited about getting to play with other girls.)
The next closest boy has some behaviour issues, but I do need to find someone he can have over. UGH!

Andi