Tracy responded to me on my post about class pictures that she was divorced also. Are there any other divorced MOMs on here that have school age kids?

It will be 4 years in May since my ex and I separated. I have been doing this by myself thing for awhile now. Currently my ex does not have utilities so the girls are only having daytime visits with him every other weekend. He picks them up on Sat. morning and I pick them up Sat. at 8 p.m. He comes back on Sunday morning and I pick them up at 5:30 p.m. I gotta admit that I am tired. I had two sick girls home this week so that meant I missed THREE days of work without pay. (No my ex will not watch them when they are sick) I start a new job on Tuesday and am hoping that everyone stays healthy so I don't miss anymore work. Ugh. I don't have family in town to help out other than my brother who has 4 kids of his own too. I think the thing that is hardest for me is that I am lonely. I don't have time to go out with friends. On my days when the girls are with their Dad I run all my errands, groceries, etc. I catch up on all laundry and house cleaning. On the weekends when I have the girls I try to find activities for us to do as family. So there really isn't any me time. I was trying to figure out what to give up for Lent but I have given up so much that I couldn't find anything to give up!

I'm not complaining really. Just stating what my life is like. I would love to hear from other MOMs to see how you handle the day-to-day stuff.

Kristina
divorced MOM
Megan 7/26/00 Blessed Adoption
Abigail, Brigid, Caroline 6/28/03 IVFers 34w3d

www.tripletsplus1.blogspot.com

Kristina
divorced MOM
Megan 7/26/00 Blessed Adoption
Abigail, Brigid, Caroline 6/28/03 IVF

www.tripletsplus1.blogspot.com

Hi,

It looks like we are a rare breed! I'm sorry you get little help from your ex. With me, we separated a couple weeks after the kids turned 3. I was completely shocked and wasn't expecting it. But, I have to say, even though my ex wasn't a good husband, he is a good father. From the beginning he continued to help me, coming over almost every night to get me through dinner, baths and bed. It was tough being around him during that time. I was sooo angry with him, but I also was sooo overwhelmed that I needed the help. I also didn't want to let him off the hook by leaving me all the work. Sometimes I would go to the grocery or run errands while he took care of the kids at my house. Now, things are pretty good. He keeps them overnight a couple nights a week and comes over on Thursday nights to help finish homework, etc. We are able to be in the same room together without killing each other, so that's a blessing. I have no family in town, but he has tons. They ALL are angry at him and have supported me from the beginning. In fact, I get invited to the holiday celebrations and he doesn't. It's a little strange.

But, that all being said, it is still very tough. The nights that I am on my own are exhausting. There simply isn't enough time in the day to do all the things we need to do. Forget about playing together. It's just trying to do what we HAVE to to make it to tomorrow. I hate that I have to be in this situation and would just like to be a normal family. My exhaustion leads to me getting angry when I shouldn't and things like that. I want to be a fun happy mom, but when you are doing it on your own, it's hard to deal with it all and enjoy it too. Sometimes you are just trying to survive.

Anyway, glad we could connect. I hope to hear from a few more moms like us!

Tracy
Mommy to Lindsey, Patrick and Brooke
Born 1-14-03 at 32weeks, 3 days and ^i^ twins Dylan 1-12-02 and Cole 1-21-02

I'm divorced too.
I left my ex when my trio were 1.
I hate dealing with him for all the reasons I hated being married to him, but we share custody. He takes the kids every other weekend from Friday after work thru Monday morning. It's bitter sweet since I get a lot done but miss them!

I have a partner though. My boyfriend and I have been together since my ex and I split in '05. So for that and other things I am very lucky, but I still have to deal with the ex- and all the stuff that goes along with being divorced and having 4 kids!

Jami
mom to 7 year old BGG,
9 year old G, & 11 year old G

Do you kids enjoy spending time with their dad?

Tracy
Mommy to Lindsey, Patrick and Brooke
Born 1-14-03 at 32weeks, 3 days and ^i^ twins Dylan 1-12-02 and Cole 1-21-02

Hello, I have 6 yr. old triplet girls and I too am divorced. It's hard but for me it's better than being married to him. All I heard from him was "No one will have anything to do with you with triplets."
Sometimes I think it's true but listening to you gives me hope.

I am divorced as well - 7 yr old triplet boys, an adult daughter - and a grandaughter too.. yes I heard it all - you will never find anyone , blah, blah.. well I found someone who was an old friend .. he loves my boys, and he has helped me realize that I can love and trust someone again.. and the rest of the family is finally coming around to accepting the fact that life does indeed go on ..

My post-divorce life for the past 2 yrs has been full of ups and downs. The day to day struggles of working full-time , raising three boys and sharing custody is challenging - but so worth the peace of mind I have now..
My boys did have family therapy during the separation,divorce, and post-divorce to help them put the pieces together . The therapist said they seemed to have adjusted to the split family. They look forward to time with their father, and while I miss them when they are gone - I do get MORE sleep. LOL

I am happy to have connected with others in a similiar situation.

Lisa mom to Melanie(29)
Guillermo,Jonathan,William(10.9.01 @34 weeks)
Grandma to Brianna(5)

Your comment on the rest of the family has finally accepted things...all I heard was I was ruining the girls lives by wanting a divorce and I was just being selfish. I thought it was better to show them what was going on was not normal and hopefully one day I can show them what a real relationship should be. Didn't make sense to me to live in a situation I know wasn't right. They seem to be ok.

It's been three years now and I still have NO desire to date. None. I am enjoying doing what I want, when I want to (as far as I can with kids...) I mean like watching what TV I want, making what I want for dinner, doing what I want to with the house, etc. Plus, who on earth has time to date???? I can barely make it through the day sometimes, I think dating would be more stress on my already stressed out life. Maybe next year...

Tracy
Mommy to Lindsey, Patrick and Brooke
Born 1-14-03 at 32weeks, 3 days and ^i^ twins Dylan 1-12-02 and Cole 1-21-02

I didn't respond to this initially because I am not technically a "divorced mom." I am, however, single and I found that I would be very lonely without my kids on the weekends, but being able catch up on the laundry and putz around the house would be nice sometimes.

Of course, I'm also grateful that I don't have to deal with that whole "ex" thing and having to split up my kids' lives.

Anyway, it's good to know there are other single moms here.

Cat w/3 Kittens
Caidan, Carina and Caeleigh
Born at 31 weeks, 1/8/04.

I will soon be divorced..next week or so. have been separated for almost 1 year. It has been very hard for me...I have 10 yrs old triplets and a 4 yr old(adopted). It hit me in the face like a freight train. My soon ex to be is 56 and has a girlfriend 30 yrs old......our employee..had been going on for a while..asked her to marry him over a yr ago...do the math .....yep..while still sleeping in my bed and showed no signs of infedelity...i will be much better off

You will be better off...trust me. I know it's hard, my situation was similar. You wonder how people can do such a thing...this is why I have no desire to date. I still can't trust.

Tracy
Mommy to Lindsey, Patrick and Brooke
Born 1-14-03 at 32weeks, 3 days and ^i^ twins Dylan 1-12-02 and Cole 1-21-02

I will soon be divorced..next week or so. have been separated for almost 1 year. It has been very hard for me...I have 10 yrs old triplets and a 4 yr old(adopted). It hit me in the face like a freight train. My soon ex to be is 56 and has a girlfriend 30 yrs old......our employee..had been going on for a while..asked her to marry him over a yr ago...do the math .....yep..while still sleeping in my bed and showed no signs of infedelity...i will be much better off

I'm divorced too, Almost 5 years now. It is exhausting but it gets a bit easier as they get older and more independent. I've been dating off and on over the past 5 yrs. Only 2 were serious and both flaked on me. I get the same things- 4 kids puts a lot of men off. For the ones that can deal with the idea of 4 kids, well, once they find out about the challenges my kids and I deal with each day,( Down syndrome, ADHD, CP, Aspergers) well, they leave too. I've given up on dating for the time being.

For day to day stuff, I learned to let some of it go. laundry and dishes will always be there. Now that my kids are older, they help with some of the chores. they actually fight over who gets to mop or wash windows. LOL I had to buy extra swiffer mops.
I get me time when they go to their dad's house. That's when I do my volunteer work, read a book, visit friends, sleep late. see a movie, eat a hot meal.
My ex helps out more now than when we were married. He's also pretty involved with the kids- takes the boys to Cub Scouts, hockey, goes to all the school stuff, ballet recitals, etc. I'm currently unemployed and so I get the bulk of dealing with kids being ill and such.

Korrie~
^i^B/G/G 24 w 3d,1/17/00
B 10/31/01
B 1/27/03

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I'm glad to hear your ex still puts time in with the kids and helps you. That's the only way I can make it, personally. I'm not sure how any mother, multiples or not, can do it truly on their own with no support from the father. I guess we are blessed in that sense...

Tracy
Mommy to Lindsey, Patrick and Brooke
Born 1-14-03 at 32weeks, 3 days and ^i^ twins Dylan 1-12-02 and Cole 1-21-02

Just wanted to say that I for one am proud of the moms here that are raising their triplets/quads alone.

And from my standpoint, as a man, I'm appalled to think of a so-called father walking out on his responsibilities. It's the cowardice way of dealing with problems, and 99.9% of the time it is nothing less than a spineless, selfish nature that can walk away from the only real place one is supposed to be.

It's so unfair in so many ways..... the kids still love their dad despite his selfishness..... the courts allow visitation for the 'betterment' of the kids, which I'm not sure is true because it teaches children that you can walk away from responsibilites and still have the reward of seeing them (on the convenience of every other weekend)...... and worst of all is that the so-called-father thinks he has the right to 'start-over' again, while mom is doing the most difficult job on planet earth with her and his children.

They give Purple Hearts and awards to soldiers who will carry a fellow soldier off the battlefield, but a mom who devotes her entire life to raising and nurturing a trio (or more) of children into becoming wonderful kids and later great adults, and in some cases by herself..... she gets no such medal of honor.

Rick (& Carole)
BBG at nearly 33 weeks and counting

You are very sweet, but I told my ex-husband to leave when my trio was a year old...he didn't walk out.

Jami
mom to 7 year old BGG,
9 year old G, & 11 year old G

Rick,

It's been awhile since I have posted on here. I am so busy! Thank you for your kind words. It is frustrating that I do EVERYTHING and Dad swoops in for 4 days out of the month and my girls think he is the greatest. I just keep in my head that I am doing the best that I can for them. That when they get older they will appreciate all that I have done for them. Each one of my girls were Star Students of the Month this year at school. Brigid in September, Abigail in February, Caroline in May and Megan in June. I choked up each time they got their award and certificate because I realized that it is me solely that raises them. Megan got so many awards in her class at the end of the school year that it was getting embarrassing with as many times as she went in front of her class. But then I had to remember that it is me that works with her all year. Not Dad.

So just a big thank you again for acknowledging all the hard work we single MOMs do.

Kristina
divorced MOM
Megan 7/26/00 Blessed Adoption
Abigail, Brigid, Caroline 6/28/03 IVFers 34w3d

My trio is 6!

www.tripletsplus1.blogspot.com

Kristina
divorced MOM
Megan 7/26/00 Blessed Adoption
Abigail, Brigid, Caroline 6/28/03 IVF

www.tripletsplus1.blogspot.com

Kristina and other Moms who have posted here:
I have 6 yr old trips who I adore, but my marriage has been dead for over 3 years. Mostly due to his infidelity, verbal abuse. He is good with the kids to a degree, but extremely disrespectful to me. He has anger management issues. It breaks my heart to see my boys act rudely, talk back and act like him. I have chosen up until now to stay in it for the children. At what point did you say enough is enough and go through with your divorces? I am doing my research now and trying to determine what's best for the children. It is harrowing.
Sadly,
Camille

When there's abuse of any kind and the abuser refuses to get help, that's when you leave. Especially since you see it starting in your children. As you go thru the divorce, make sure your lawyer gets it put in the paperwork that their father HAS to go thru counseling/anger management of some sort for a significant period of time ( I'd say at least a year),not some blow off one day course or evaluation by a psychiatrist or whatever. If his horrible behavior is now being mimicked by your children then he doesn't need to be around them until he's under professional care, IMO.
I hope you are doing well these days and things are looking better for you.

God Bless

Korrie~
^i^B/G/G 24 w 3d,1/17/00
B 10/31/01
B 1/27/03

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Korrie,

Here, here. Very good advice. When I look back on things now I do wish I had thought of something like this. It may have helped things a lot for my ex to have continued going to therapy instead of stopping as soon as we separated.

Kristina
divorced MOM
7/26/00 Megan Blessed Adoption
Abigail, Brigid, Caroline 6/28/03 IVFers 34w3d

My trio is 6!!

www.tripletsplus1.blogspot.com

Kristina
divorced MOM
Megan 7/26/00 Blessed Adoption
Abigail, Brigid, Caroline 6/28/03 IVF

www.tripletsplus1.blogspot.com

Can I jump in here? Camille, it sounds like you're relationship is a lot like mine was. My husband "checked out" in March 08. The triplets were just over 2, and my son was 3. He finally moved out this past March 09 after months of me begging him to go to counseling, make it better, etc. He is very passive-aggressive and narcissistic (my therapists words), which has made it very hard to move forward. It's been getting better every day/week/month. Plus I've had 15 months to prepare for this. It does get better in a lot of ways, but be prepared for the mental abuse to escalate. He will come at you full force when you make the move to get out from the dysfunctional relationship....at least that's what my husband did. Tried to guilt me into believing it's all my fault, etc. Which it's not, it takes two to tango, and I could make your head spin with the tales of everything he's done in this relationship over our 10 years of marriage.

As for being the sole caretaker for the kids, the hardest part is working full time at my "job" during the day, then working full time in the evening at my "second job" as mommy to the kids. Not to mention my role as mommy, daddy, housekeeper, lawn technician, household repair-woman, chef, etc etc. It's daunting, but I take it one day at a time. My ex does come over every Wed evening to see the kids, but he doesn't get here until 6pm, then leaves when they go to bed at 7:30pm. Then he does the every other weekend thing too. I miss my kids terribly, but I get so much done on those weekends. As for dating, I've just been reconnecting with old girlfriends and spending time with them out and about. I've met a few men, and one in particular is incredibly sweet, but knows I'm not looking for a relationship at this point. So it works for now.

I would love to stay connected with you ladies who are divorced, especially those of you who have come out on the other side already! Thanks for your stories and info.

Melissa
ggg 12/05
b 7/04

Melissa - Thank you so much for your supportive words. Our situations do sound very similar. I have begged mine too to go to counseling and to see a therapist on his own for his depression/rage issues, whatever it is, and he has never made the effort. Nor will he go for marriage counseling. (Which i actually think would be a waste of time at this point.)
I know in my heart what is best, and that is to save myself and my children from this awful, soul-less person. My family hates him. It is just so darn scary. And I worry so much for my kids. How will they turn out from this?...Or will they be worse off if we stayed together in a loveless and combative marriage? I am plagued with all the never-ending questions, and already feelings of guilt. It is so helpful and reassuring to hear such positive words. I realize how tough it is managing on your own, but from what I've read from you and the other women so far, you all seem happy with your decisions. And are coping quite well.
I would like to stay connected to. I think this is a hot topic, especially in the stressful world of multiples.
Melissa, btw, how did you find a good therapist?
Camille

Camille,

We actually used a therapist who was married to a Deacon in a local Catholic church. They met with us both together and separately. It helped for awhile but things were just too far gone from that point to keep us together.

Camille, as far as when is enough enough? That is a truly personal decision. I realized that I was doing everything by myself already and having my ex at home was just one stressful thing too many. The divorce process was awful. It took TWO years for the divorce to finalize.

Melissa, I know what you mean about having to be everything for your kids. That is my life exactly. The girls are with their Dad this week in St. Louis with him and his fiancee (she has twins). I'm getting a good, restful break. Sometimes I envy friends who are married. When they run out of milk one parent can go out and get it. With me, I have to load all 4 in the car and we all go together. I've gotten really good and planning out my week so that that type of thing doesn't happen too often. It really is all about planning and being organized. Not two words I would generally use to describe me but I'm getting better.

Truthfully I would have prefered to stay married if I knew all the problems that would arise from being apart. I just wish my ex would have been willing to see the problems that were before us. Now I think he does to some extent. If there is anyway you can work it out with your husband, keep trying. But if it is definitely the end of your marriage, you will survive. You will, and your kids will.

I talk a lot about what happens in my life on my blog: www.tripletsplus1.blogspot.com
Maybe if you read that it will help you make your decision either way.

Fondly,
Kristina
divorced MOM
Megan 7/26/00 Blessed Adoption
Abigail, Brigid, Caroline 6/28/03 IVFers 34w3d

My trio is 6!!

www.tripletsplus1.blogspot.com

Kristina
divorced MOM
Megan 7/26/00 Blessed Adoption
Abigail, Brigid, Caroline 6/28/03 IVF

www.tripletsplus1.blogspot.com

Kristina,
Thanks for your insight. I am so impressed with you and how strong you are after reading your blog...(I love your photos and music selection.) I can see you are a great mom to your precious girls.
Life is so tough sometimes. I pray every night for guidance. Right now, I really feel like you had where I am managing everything regarding the kids, the house, etc., that when he is around it only adds stress. For the moment, I plan to find a good therapist to help me sort through all this.
I really appreciate your chiming in. And most of all, have a wonderfully relaxing weekend. It must be so quiet at your place!
Love,
Camille
btw, Happy 6th Birthday to your sweeties!

I totally agree with Kristina about staying together IF you can. Maybe I'll feel differently a few years from now when the kids are a bit older. But for now, 4 toddlers is definitely daunting. Mostly from the standpoint of errands or outings, like Kristina mentioned. Not being able to run out for an item without it being a big ordeal does stink. I definitely do have to plan more thoroughly. It would be great to have a partner around. But the trade off is that I get every other weekend totally free, and I've really been able to get out and socialize like I used to before the kids. So that is a silver lining.

For me, it was pure luck finding my therapist. I went to one, didn't seen to connect with him, then went to another and it seemed to be a fit. He is very reputable in my community and is active in various organizations, so I felt he was competent. It has helped tremendously, and so has my Lexapro. I'm not kidding either. Within the first few days of taking it, the "edginess" that I'd been feeling for the past few years literally disappeared. Unfortunately, the marriage didn't get better. But getting help for myself and getting "better" made me realize it truly isn't all my fault that the marriage fell apart. With my husband, it's always about pointing the finger. He constantly says things like "if you were nicer to me, I would do xyz" or "how come you always have to criticize me" if I ask him for help with something. He actually accused me of deliberately waiting to take the kids up to bed until he went to the fridge to get a snack. I'm not kidding. I didn't ask for his help taking the kids up to bed. In fact, I didn't even notice what he was doing, it was simply time for bed and I said let's go up to the kids. He was pissed at me and said I did it on purpose just to keep him from getting a snack. And by the way, his snack was literally delayed by about 5 minutes because we don't have a bedtime routine...it's up the stairs, in bed, kisses, blow out lights, and that's it.

So anyway, I hope you find a professional to talk this over with before deciding to leave. there are realities that suck...like going back to work, dividing up assets and debts, being totally alone and responsible for your kids' lives, etc etc.

Enjoy your holiday weekend if you can. Kristina, LOVE the blog!!

Melissa
ggg 12/05
b 7/04

You guys are so sweet about my blog. Sometimes I think I focus on the negative too much. Then other times I think I am to positive. I really just try to write my thoughts down as they come. I enjoy just sort of putting things out there.

I do wish we had a forum on TC devoted to single parents. We are a slightly different breed. I realize there are only a few of us on here but our life is different than most HOM families. My blog has my email address on it so if anyone is ever interested in chatting with me, I am available.

The girls came back home this afternoon at 2:30 after a week in St. Louis with their Dad and his girlfriend. Boy is it good to have them back. I REALLLLYYYY missed them.

Kristina
divorced MOM
Megan 7/26/00 Blessed Adoption
Abigail, Brigid, Caroline 6/28/03 IVFers 34w3d

My trio is 6!!!

www.tripletsplus1.blogspot.com

Kristina
divorced MOM
Megan 7/26/00 Blessed Adoption
Abigail, Brigid, Caroline 6/28/03 IVF

www.tripletsplus1.blogspot.com

Hi I have been divorced since my children were 3 1/2. They are now 10 and will be 11 in September. It can be very hard being mom, dad, housekeeper, lawn care, school work, everything! Plus working a full time job. My ex rarely sees the kids and never helps out. He might see one of them once a month for a very short overnight visit. He just recently let all 3 spend the night with him on Fathers Day weekend. This was the first time he had all 3 alone for any length of time and they are 10! It is very stressful and at times I think I just can't do all this anymore, but you keep on trucking and try to do the best you can to raise happy, healthy, loving children. It is nice to be able to talk to someone who actually knows what it is like to be a single parent of 3. I hear from singleton moms all the time about how hard it is. LOL!

I know this is an old post, but wanted to add my name to the list. I am moving out (and the kids) November 1st. Long time to deal here but i been dealing for years lol.. My parents bought a house I will rent from them until I decide to relocate which I want to once money is saved. They close on their house October 19th, and he has to put in new windows and such before the winter MN freeze. So until them I am cleaning this house, organizing, packing ect.

I have an appt with a lawyer in a few weeks as well.

My question is are any of you living in a different state as your ex? If so how is that working for you? I am in MN and I told him once I get money saved I want to move to AZ - talked with HR at my job where we have an office in AZ, talked to some apartment places for first year ect.. He at the moment is fine with the move and is ok with having the kids in the summers, and can come visit, and every other xmas.. But the problems I have is with my parents! So tired of the lectures.. you cant take them away from the family, go ahead and move and leave kids here, that is stupid it isnt about you it is about the kids, you dont even have a real career - and so on are the comments from my mother. So want to be treated like I am not 12... She can make my life he%^ if she wants, so I m afraid to say anything back but to take the lectures and bury them inside which kills me. So very tired of being told (from the time i had the babies) that I cant do it. cant do this without help, cant do that - well i showed them i could take care of my kids alone with no help.. but still no respect..


sorry for the venting, just been keeping so much crap in i am ready to burst and was hoping someone else could empathlize...

take care!!!! and tia..

Edited to add:

My trio will be 5 in 2 months..

Kelli and my GEM's - age 5 years old

hey Kelli
just wanted to offer some support.

You are lucky to have your ex's support in your decision.
a word of advice - get everything settled and agreed to in court .. This way no suprises later on ..

As for yor mom - as I tell my mom - you live with your decisons and I live with mine.. She is also very opionanated..

my ex and I live in different states - albeit very close by, he's in NYC and we are in NNJ. However no weeknight overnights for the boys during school year.. and he is responsible for getting them to their activities when he has them on his weekends.

Everything is laid out in our agreement - and while we make changes occassionally - anything major - we go back to court.
For me - this works as it keeps him accountable to the schedule. The kids also know what to expect..


best of luck !


Lisa mom to Melanie(29)
Guillermo,Jonathan,William(10.9.01 @34 weeks)
grandma to Brianna(6)

Kelli,

While I don't have any advice, I do want to offer support. I live outside Phoenix, so if you do move here I'd love to get together with you!

I've been divorced for two years. I live with my parents and they are very supportive. My ex doesn't cause any problems and we're actually friendly. As the previous poster mentioned, please get everything settled in court quickly while your ex agrees to you moving. If he fights the move most judges won't let you go.


Jennie
Proud mom to BBB born 09-02-03 @ 32.2 wks
and 12 yr old big brother
and 2 yr old little brother

Hopefully you've talked with an attorney by now.

My best advice is to get out to Arizona asap and forget about moving anywhere within the state. The problem you face is that once you've located the children in one place, you are going to have to petition the court in most states in order to move the children. And, while dh is helpful now, it doesn't mean that he will remain helpful.

If you have employment in Arizona right now, and dh backing you, then go, go, go. It will not get easier.

Good luck to you.

Cat w/3 Kittens
Caidan, Carina and Caeleigh
Born at 31 weeks, 1/8/04.

My husband and I are no longer together, but we have a unique situation. My husband and I are still VERY good friends. He spends time with my boyfriend and I as friends even when the kids aren't around. We both let go of all of the marital issues when we decided it was over, and now we just work together to parent the kids. I ask his opinion on most issues, and we discuss it before acting. He spends a lot of time with the kids, but it is at my house, I usually leave so he can be alone with them, as he has a room mate. He is very good about jumping in to help when I need it, and will come over at a moments notice if the kids say they miss him. He joins us for dinner a lot of the time. Now you might be wondering if my boyfriend has a problem with this, no, he likes my ex a lot, they even hang out some times, (probably to complain about me LOL)and my ex even occasionally offers to watch my bf's kids so we can go out.

Kelli

Morgan (11) & natural (by natural I mean concieved on top of a picnic table at a campground, so maybe it should say nature-al) BBG triplets Eric, Josh, and Hannah born @ 33w1d



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Thank you for all your kind words.. I was feeling so good for the past 6 weeks! But this weekend that changed. I of course turned into the B**ch (they think) although I have been nice, and accomendating. The rental house we weere moving into (temporarily) is ready in 2 weeks.

I am now finding a lawyer to get the paperwork started. But today after he said i could leave state, he was being an AS* about everything.. Saying I wasnt taking the kids anywhere....

So I am really feeling down, I was ready for fresh start, feeling so great not the anxiety and panic attacks are starting again. I was just fooling myself to think things could be cordial with him and his family. I am - they arent. On this end of a divorce too - i figured it would be ok in the end, but I am the bad person now. I jsut dont get it. makes my head hurt..

UGH another day in the life...

Kelli and my GEM's - age 5 years old

Yikes. I just responded and then got down here to this post.

Get your job situated in Arizona and make that your reason for the move. So long as you have a good reason to leave the state, it is in the children's best interests to be with an employed parent. If you delay on this, you'll have to explain how come your job is up and moving to Arizona. At that time, it will amount to uprooting the children, etc., etc., etc. Courts are really tough on "move aways." If you get situated in the wrong place, you may get stuck there.

Again, good luck to you.

Oh, and this is why I have IVF and did my triplets alone to begin with...

Cat w/3 Kittens
Caidan, Carina and Caeleigh
Born at 31 weeks, 1/8/04.