Is no one else having problems but me? Well I'm filing for divorce this week. I have just paid my retainer fee (wow) and I'm ready to rock and roll. My soon to be ex has not paid me any child support since he moved in with his mother in March. He has been inconsistent with his visits to the kids, rude, and mean this whole time. His mother was a big part of our problems, especially after fixing her son up on a blind date with a friend of a firend even before he moved out. She even had all of their side of the family boycott the trips 1st birthday, and is not going to see them for Christmas! I could go on and on. What kind of a man pays over 20K to bring 3 children into this world and them decides that it's too much work for him? If you would like a complete rundown on him including his picture you can e-mail me and I will be glad to send it to you. I'm sad for my kids but so glad this will all be over with.


Sarita mother to bbg
born 35w 1d on 3/24/08

I am so sorry for you. Men definitely have issues dealing with having triplets--they can't seem to cope when the world isn't revolving around them any more. It is such a shame, because if they put half as much effort into being a decent husband and father as they do into being selfish idiots all would be good. I hope things improve for you soon--feel free to pm me anytime you want to unload.

Sorry to hear you have to get a divorce. I started the divorce process when my kids were 14 months. They just turned 2 yesterday! Anyway, it has been a very, very hard road, but now I am very happy. My dh was also a jerk and wanted nothing to do with the babies. The judge said in court that he wants him to have ample visitation so that he learns to respect me---hasn't worked yet. At first I was scared to let them go with him, but now I LOVE THE BREAK!!! I thank my lucky stars everyday that I got out early.

My advice about the divorce. Do not be emotional and go on and on about how wrong he has done you. Your attorney will just listen then charge you thousands and in court never bring it up. It is so stupid. I spent 20k getting my divorce because I was so angry and I talkked too much. Just beware of that. Please PM me if you want to talk. Kim

I don't know if they ever learn to respect. My ex still worries about sleeping in and not having to go to the morning bus..not joking. I am up everyday at 430 to get ready for work. what is sleep or an early bedtime for mom?

Georgiana

Men do have issues dealing with triplets! Why is that??? I hate to break it to them....but it is not always so easy for the mother either....we just have no choice but to keep plugging away!

LOL....selfish idiots.....LOL.....could not have said it better myself....but it is amazing!

Three is rough---there is no doubt....but you do what you have to do to get through....

My hubby has challenges with the fact that he has these three....will see how he does....One of my FAVORITE quotes is: "Adversity does not develop character...it reveals it".... Our trips are only 14 weeks old (today) and he is struggling....we will see how he pulls out of it in the end!

Can't be so bad though....there are SOOOOOO many people on this site that have trips and THEN more!!!! I do wish that the crying would ease a bit though.....

Good luck to you---vent anytime!!!!

Michelle

You're not the only one having problems, but I think everyone just posts in the main forum instead...I don't know why.
If it would help you feel better, feel free to pm me all the details...I enjoy helping people vent.
Your mother-in-law sounds like an in-law from hell...I can't imagine a grandma boycotting her grandbabies' birthday party!!! (not to mention encouraging her son to commit adultery...) Obviously she's a jerk and doesn't deserve sweet triplet grandbabies...any other grandma would be glad to have them! (I imagine that the next man in your life will have a seriously thrilled mother ready to snuggle her potential step-grandchildren!)
Anyway, be strong during this turbulent time...
-K

thank you all so much for the advice. I just want all of this to be over.


Sarita mother to bbg
born 35w 1d on 3/24/08

I paid my retainer fee and had my first lawyer appt a few weeks ago.. Waiting for him to be served... He knows it is coming.

The kids and I moved out of the house Nov 22nd. It has been nice being in charge for once...

Cant wait until this is done as well!!!

Kelli and my GEM's - age 5 years old

I am so sorry to hear of your situation....but it sounds if if in the end it will be for the best for you! Keep the faith---and remember that your kids are the most important things in your life! THe road you are about to travel will not be easy---but if there is one thing that I have learned in this life---the things that do come easy usually are not really worth it!

Michelle

Hi,

I too am going through a divorce. I moved out in July and left the house to him because it is in our in-laws name, who by the way are also in-laws from h*#l.
I know how you feel. My ex is bigging such a jerk to me and a lot of times right in fromt of the children. He pays no child support and blames me all the time. I could go on and on but we all know how it is. You will get through this. Make sure you keep a journal of his visits, things that he says that he shouldn't, when and how much money he gives you, etc. Good Luck, you are not alone. I'm right in the middle of mine too. Other moms have done it and we can too

Jill
(29wk triplets)
Julia(8-22-96)
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It is super hard to meet all of the challenges that seem to come from all directions. Good luck in your future! I can only say that I am facing my challenges only thru my basic beliefs (mormon.org) that help me see my husbands faults (and mine) with an enlightening perspective.
You're never alone in challenges. . . we all have them.
Wish you the best!

melly

I am sorry that you are having to go through this. I wish you and your children the best.

Debbie
33wks GBG
1/25/08

You are not the only one having problems. My divorce became final Dec 2009. My state is backwards. Divorce 1st, wait many , many months for settlement, and then they decide child support. My ex has had time to lower his salary in the meantime, so I can't even file for child support. I went back to work Feb 2009 FT and made more than him. Go figure - he owns 2 businesses that have been thriving for a very long time. I am 48, have 11 year old triplets and an adopted 5 yr old. My ex was cheating for a ,ong time before I ever found out - before children. Why did he want children and then adopt. I will never understand. I was a stay at home mother and only work casually as a RN. Thank goodness I had that to fall back on.
Anyhow..court date for settlement is not until June...child support hearing...who knows?
Very sad when a 56 year old man likes to mingle/live with 20's something employees.

Feel free to email me at buzzykat@comcast.net

It has taken a emotional toil on me, but am healing and getting stronger.
We should try to start a divorce corner on the triplet connection forum

Georgiana